Solo Male Chastity!

Not everyone that engages in practicing male chastity is in a relationship. Nor, do they necessarily want to be in a relationship or better yet, they may not even require sexual satisfaction. It’s an interesting phenomenon that sees solo male chastity as either becoming a part of the desexualisation of the male figure, or as an attempt to curb their own sexual habits or even to abate their own sexual interests. Solo male chastity is a very interesting aspect of chastity because the psychology is vastly different than what it is within couple chastity.

In solo chastity, the key holder is essentially yourself, you both deny yourself and release yourself based on you and your needs. Sure, you can ask a friend to mind the key, and there are some friends out there that will not even hesitate to do this. Yet, not everyone has the friend, and the premise of solo chastity relies on your own ability to avoid temptation. There are many reasons why people will engage in solo male chastity. They might feel that they have a sexual compulsion problem which needs to be curbed, they might feel that they need to refocus their sexual energy towards other pursuits and endeavors, they might relish the idea of a personal challenge, they might find the idea of an unknown key holder to be incredibly alluring or they might simply seek to try something new. There are a variety of reasons why someone will engage themselves in solo male chastity.

Curbing Addiction:-

Fetish Porn is an incredibly large commodity in today’s media driven world with an estimated 71% percent of internet users at some stage accessing or consuming pornography. A study from 2009 suggested that the average single male consumed about 2 hours’ worth of porn per week. That’s on average, so there are a lot of males who consume porn at a much higher rate than that. 20% of males in the United States have admitted to accessing pornography at work. With such worrying statistics is it any wonder that some men seek the need to find help? I’m by no means suggesting that the consumption of pornography is a bad thing and there are plenty of studies that agree with this statement – however, as with most things too much of a certain thing can lead to issues. It can become problematic as the situation might cloud their judgement, or it might become an obstacle in daily life, or work life. We’ve mentioned several time throughout this website, that some people choose chastity in order to refocus their sexual energy onto different tasks, and this ‘addiction’ or consumption of pornography might be standing in the way of a few things. It is no small wonder than that there are men out there who, in order to curb their pornography consumption, have chosen to use a chastity device.

The benefits of using a chastity device are that it can lead to an increase in self-control, will power and determination; qualities which can transcend the realm of chastity devices and affect an individual’s daily life as well. Many men report that they have used a chastity device at work in order to help stave off their erections, arousal levels and become more productive at work. However, it does take a while to achieve that higher productivity as you become used to wearing a cage around your cock with the key safely at home. Thinking of the science of chastity and reading that article will help you in understanding the time lengths it can potentially take to increase productivity amidst the rollercoaster ride of dopamine, prolactin, and oxytocin. These men have also found that their orgasms are much stronger when they do eventually find sexual release simply because they’ve been holding out on themselves.

Asexuality & Low Sex Drives:-

The asexual population, or rather those that aren’t into sex or have exceptionally low sex drives, are also users of the chastity device. I was speaking to a friend recently with whom I asked about his decision to wear a chastity device. He explained it to me as whilst he found no sexual attraction in anyone, nor did he have a particularly high sex drive – he still would randomly get erections as the body tested out the arteries and ensures that everything was still functioning. He wore the chastity cage for two reasons; the first reason being that it prevented him getting erections. He’d read about the uses of chastity cages and discovered that there were some men out there who had managed to learn to control their erections throughout the day.

This appealed to my friend greatly, who often felt rather embarrassed at the thought of having an erection in front of other people. The second reason he offered was that it was a safety net for him. He had a very low sex drive, but that didn’t mean he didn’t want to occasionally have sex or jerk himself off. This secured his cock firmly in a cage, the key safely at home and he didn’t feel the need to indulge himself every now and then. For him it was about the comfort and the satisfaction of knowing that if he was placed in a situation whereby his bodily urges attempted to overtake him, he would still be in control. Think of it like putting your Credit card in a cube of ice, to delay spending money that you do not have.

Further, there are some guys out there who want to practice celibacy, whether that be permanently, for a period of time due to religious or personal beliefs, or even if they simply want to cleanse the body. Cock cages work wonderfully for these types of people who are new to practicing celibacy and need a bit of an extra security blanket to ensure that they don’t stray. These are only a couple of the reasons that single men choose to wear cock cages – but I hope that it provides a little insight into a seemingly mysterious world.

Unknown Key Holders:-

There are actually forums, and dedicated websites to individuals who want to be online key holder for other people. They find the idea of being in control of someone’s sexual urges to be a turn on for themselves, and they are there to help the people who want to engage in chastity, yet aren’t in a relationship, don’t have a friend willing to help and yet still want to be in a chastity relationship. These people might market themselves as chastity trainers, or as Mistresses and Masters who will look after you, and help you achieve the lifestyle of chastity that you want. Chastity slaves are generally held captive by their keyholder either through the physical submission of their key, or will be given a new lock with a code with which the chaste male may request for different reasons. There are a few things which might be different with an online chastity relationship as opposed to physical chastity relationship.

The male seeking chastity may discuss with the key-holder the length of time that the male has to remain in the chastity device. Once the allocated time has passed, the key or code will be given in order to free them. If the chaste male has broken a rule, or a guideline, then an extension of chastity may be given. The time may be days, weeks or even months, or it could be left unneeded with the chaste male having to perform certain tasks in order to complete his sentence.

relating to each other — key communication

Communication Is Key. As with all submissive and dominant relationships limits are discussed, put into a document or agreement and signed/agreed to by all parties. It would be wise to ensure that there is an agreement so that there are a sense of guidelines to the relationship.

A Physical Key, or code must be given to a third individual/party or put in safe keeping for emergencies. If something were to happen to the dominant, or key holder and there was an emergency, allowances must be given so that the chaste male can obtain freedom.

Once limits have been set, the chaste male has given over all control. From here the keyholder could get them to perform daily tasks, have fun with them in humiliating and obscene ways, or simply ensure that the chaste male is following all instructions. Failure to do this could result in an extension of the time spent in chastity, or they might be given increasingly humiliating acts as a form of punishment. Though it should be noted that not all chastity relationships contain elements of humiliation and that there are other tasks that can be completed in the absence of humiliation. In virtual key holding situations – the chaste male will need to provide proof that the tasks are being completed and proof could be given in the form of photos, videos, emails, text, or voice. The situations and the tasks are endless. We have provided an example of some humiliating assignments that might be used:

Do not wear underwear and socks
Go to a nude beach
Walk around gym locker room nude
Wear white spandex/lycra while jogging or at gym
Shower only with cold water
Insert 2 golf balls in the ass for 24 hours
Shave all body hair below your neck. Keep shaved during sentence
Wear a leather slave collar in public
Wear a butt plug with a tail on it for an entire day
Grab a black marker and write your penis size on your head in inches/cm and then go shopping.
Go to a gym with showers and take a shower with chastity cage in front of your gym buddies
Take a bunch of photos with you naked and wearing the chastity cage in range of different positions. Send it to the Keyholder
Write a 2000 word essay on the benefits of chastity and send it to the Keyholder
Take a picture kneeling and naked wearing the chastity cage in a changing room at the shopping centre
List 50 reasons why it is a privilege to be allowed to be kept in chastity by the Keyholder (We have acquired this task through a chaste slave and posted it in an article on this website)

What these tasks are designed to do is to incorporate and reinforce the dominant and submissive relationship through the unknown key-holder. Such assignments are not for everyone, and there may be a discussion as to the types of assignments that are doable when setting the guidelines of the relationship – but it is the mission of the dominant to slowly increase your boundaries, though a good dominant will understand those boundaries and push them without breaking them.

Solo Chastity:-

The last group of individuals are the ones that simply want to enjoy solo chastity without the influence of others. They could constitute a combination of any of the above mentioned feelings, and they might not have any. They may simply enjoy being caged and the self-control that they are physically putting on themselves. In our next article we will go through some of the safety tips as well as some games that might be played by people in solo chastity.

There are in fact hundreds of thousands of people that prescribe to this and groups like NoFap claim to be a secular porn-recovery community.

September 30, 2018March 31, 2020

Male Chastity Loves Adultsmart!

Intimacy is the best place and the best time for expression. Finding a partner with whom be free is the shortest way to self-discovery, and if one is not allowed to express freely with the other, then it means intimacy is not real.

Bondage Sado-masochism (BDSM) sounds like a tabu, like dark practice your ex is probably trying out with his new partner. And it’s not. Just like sex is a regular thing, a regular action upon which so much meaning has been bestowed, BDSM is also a normal thing.

It’s just not that popular as it’s seen as a porno-practice, something for weirdos and sexually curious people. And this is what we’re talking today: BDSM, and with a special emphasis on male chastity, and why The Male Chastity Blog readers should love The Adultsmart Lifestyle Blog.

The AdultsmartLifestyle Blog is a no-BS site where writers are honest, frank, and open about a healthy lifestyle for men. And a healthy lifestyle includes a healthy sexual life and sexual drive. With sex toys.

And the Male Chastity Blog is what you should be reading if you want to finally spice up your nights in bed. Or, you know, in the kitchen, the living room, the car, the sofa, the bath, the woods. Whatever you like.

The slave and the mistress

Chastity play –also referred to as chastity couples- engage in a game where the girl, dressed in sexy leather and high heels, is the mean mistress, while the boy, dress in nothing, is the slave.

The couple makes a silent contract to make their foreplay fantastic: the boy cannot make any move on the girl until she says so. He is a slave, a naughty little slave, and he must obey as she licks her body, rubs her back with her beautiful feet, kisses his lips, and teases Mr. Johnson.

It all grows better –and harder- with a chastity belt: a penis cage that keeps it away from the action. The mistress is free to tease it until it explodes and, as she keeps the key of the chastity belt, she is the one to decide when to set Mr. Jhonson free.

What better toy than a chastity belt, right? It’s just the perfect excuse to get all kinds of jobs. Fantasies fulfilled.

General rules of chastity play
Chastity couples is a way of living that may or may not go beyond the bedroom. Some couples only engage in this in special moments, while others take this as the philosophy of their relationship.

It’s your call. And here it is:

The slave obeys his Mistress until the Mistress says otherwise. In the body, heart, mind, and soul, the slave belongs to her.

The subdued has a safeword from when things get too heavy for him, and he accepts the responsibility of using it when necessary. The Mistress has to respect the use of the safeword, and if the condition arises, the Mistress will determine the appropriate course of action.

The slave’s body is always readily available for the Mistress, and the slave knows that his girl orders how he should use his body with others. So, in case of playing with other people, there are a set of rules the slave must obey to respect his master.

The slave demonstrates his acceptance of his role beyond intimacy moments: as a way of life, his role and service are 24/7 in the places and tasks the Mistress has set for him.

The Mistress may also hurt the slave to please herself without any reason or warning. The slave knows this and acknowledges that Mistress can use his body, mind, hear, and soul in whatever way she seems to like it. However, Mistress has agreed to not hurt the slave in any way that may require attention from a third-party.

The slave can cry, beg, scream, and plea, but he accepts that this painful expression will not change the way Mistress treats him. He also knows there’s a gag around Mistress can use when she gets tired of his disrespect.

The slave will always be honest to his master and will answer any question directly and without hesitation, especially when it’s about his emotional or physical condition. Furthermore, Mistress expects slave will speak his mind about things that bother him, however, this does not mean slave has a permission to whine.

Concerts are to be shared respectfully and politely. Then, Mistress will judge and take the actions she thinks necessary.

The slave will address his Mistress as “Mistress” or “Ma’am” with love and respect. Meanwhile, Mistress might give his slave “free periods” under which he can express freely with no punishments applied. During this free times, the slave will still address Mistress with love and respect.

Public and private rules of conduct

In private, the slave must greet Mistress wearing his collar, wrist restraints, and a shirt that belongs to Mistress. He must not wear underclothes in her presence unless she says otherwise.

As long as Mistress is home, the slave remains whatever she thinks is appropriate for him and wear whatever she decides. And as the slave leaves the room, the must explains his reasons.

In public, the slave can only participate in the activities the Mistress has approved, and act in such a way that doesn’t call the attention of anyone else. He calls Mistress by his name and dress as he likes for public scenarios, but still seek approval of the clothing he wears to go out.

The chastity agreement cannot interfere with anyone’s career. The slave must work honestly and hard for the betterment and honor of both him and his owner.

A lifestyle for healthy couples

The Chastity Blog and the Adult Lifestyle Blog can get much from each other. A chastity belt is the first step towards chastity play. If you don’t like all of this rules – like, for example, you like being a man and being in charge and not behave like a little B***h – you could choose to engage in this kind of games on special occasions.

For example, who’s to say you and your partner wouldn’t enjoy being Mistress and Slave during your anniversary? Maybe he deserves punishment for such basic gifts or for the time he was mean to your mother.

And with a chastity belt, man, you can sit down and enjoy your girl teasing and edging you until you have accumulated so much drive that you feel ready to break the bed and sleep for two days straight.

September 28, 2018March 31, 2020

Wearing My Male Chastity Device!

Wife BDSM Fantasy

I am one of those men who have been fantasizing about getting bound and dominated by my wife. I love being her slave; I love calling her my Mistress, my Goddess! I love that feeling of submission that clouds my mind and whole body whenever I am requesting her to unlock my Ridem Tiger so that I can go get a shower. It is a feeling that makes me orgasm!

Before I bought my first male chastity device, I longed to be locked, loved and owned by my Wife, and when I acquired it she also started enjoying satisfying my long-time fantasy. She loved that I have had such a feeling. My Ridem Tiger has helped our sexual life a lot by bringing us closer intimately. Wearing My Male Chastity Device causes more sexual arousal for my wife! Whenever I am wearing my Caged Dragon or Ridem Tiger all day long, it means that I actually get more sexually aroused for my Wife because my mind always returns to the holder of my key; my Mistress; my Goddess!

Each and every time I visit the washrooms and see the lock-up on my genital area, I am reminded of why my body belongs to my wife. The male chastity device is a constant reminder of my obligations to my wife; I never forget about her at any one moment during the day. These few years I have been wearing this device, I have been able to appreciate my wife and the pleasures she gives to my body whenever we are together, even more! I have completely stopped masturbating. Before I started using my male chastity devices, I was so addicted to masturbation. This frustrated my wife a lot when she discovered my addiction. She always complained why I was doing this yet she always tried to pleasure me as much as possible. So, when we decide to buy my Caged Dragon, stopping masturbation was one of the things we discussed. At first, I would get very frustrated on being unable to touch myself as I had been used to. But with time I was able to appreciate the importance of stopping this addiction and it slowly left my mind.

My Chastity Device does not really restrict my erection. Getting aroused is not really important at all when I am wearing a male chastity device. But erections are natural, and when hormones are stirred up, the penis will just get erect naturally. In fact, we wear chastity devices primarily to avoid doing what we can do when an erection happens! That is the reason why I wear a device that is always comfortable enough not to severely restrict my penis if – and when – a natural erection occurs my Caged Dragon or Ridem Tiger does not make me feel pain or any much discomfort whenever I get aroused. The cages are made in such a way as to allow an erection to push it away from my body because the root of my penis remains outside the cage.

Regular wearing of a Male Chastity Device gives me Better Control over my body. Regular wearing of a male chastity device and experiencing less orgasms over time means has mentally tuned me to have a better control over my other erogenous zones like the neck, nipples, ears, balls and even the anus. Trying to maintain chastity through orgasm denial has helped me become a more tender, more sensitive, more considerate and more passionate lover.

When Wearing My Chastity Device, I have discovered that My Penis is not the only thing that matters! I have been able to gain a better appreciation that my penis is not the only thing necessary for good sex. I have learnt to enjoy the pleasures of my own body without necessarily having an orgasm or a direct touch to my penis. I have been able to become a better lover to my Wife by discovering whole new ways to excite and arouse her body. Overall, I have discovered how my pleasure is found in my Wife’s pleasure. Pleasuring and pleasing my woman has been my ultimate reward; a reward that has earned me a lot of release and even helped me orgasm at times!

My Male Chastity Devices have helped me become more productive. Since I started using the Ridem Tiger and the Caged Dragon, I have been able to control my feelings in such a way that I do not waste a lot of my time, money and energy with other women like I used to doi before. This is not because I am only restricted from doing so but because my mind has been accustomed to only think of my Mistress and Goddess, the holder of the key to my bondage! Whenever I travel out of town for business transactions; I only think of my Wife whenever I get aroused. And when I am back home, I can’t wait to make love to my wife!

I have no bad reactions which are allergic whatsoever which is why I really love wearing my male chastity devices! If you find your skin becomes irritated you can frequently use lubricants around the cock ring to help keep these device’s from producing to much friction against your body. Your body will eventually get used to using the device’s. It will make you pride about your self control and you will start to behave like a grown up man while releasing maximum sexual potential on your partner. As a partner there is no more need for you to engage in oral sex with him. He will be quite happy about the release of his sexual tension. He will play with your body and tease you with a stronger and harder erection that will satisfy you till you fall asleep in your bed. Its important that you measure your male chastity device correctly and you will be in wonder when your friends compliment you about your attentive and wonderful partner. They will be jealous of your committed and strong relationship.

Once you have locked your partner’s penis with a chastity device he will become more helpful in and outside of your relationship. He will be at your service at any time of the day. He will know that the only way to release his penis is to please you. It is very nice to keep him away from the nasty and badly sexual relations with masturbation and enjoy him as much as you like.

September 28, 2018March 31, 2020

Sheila Set My Cock Trap!

You need to see precisely how these chastity devices you buy can be abused in the hands of the wrong lady. How they can indeed be utilized to obliterate a man’s life. The particular case that destroyed my life is fundamentally designed after The Cock Trap. You have probably heard about The Cock Trap from another person already, though if you haven’t it is made of solid titanium. Lightweight, yet completely difficult to cut the material.

Let me introduce you to Sheila

Sheila is the sort of lady who ought to never have gotten her hands on that damn thing. I met her at work. We both had jobs at the same office complex and we both had gotten to know one another over the past six months or thereabouts. She was truly appealing and appeared to be pulled in to me, so I had regularly asked her out on a couple of dates. We had a great time, and inevitably wound up in the sack together a few times. However, after for a little while it was evident to me there was no potential for it to be over the long haul. She simply wasn’t exactly my sort – she was either on the verge of or excessively requesting and inclined to touchiness, if you catch my drift. I didn’t formally cancel it or anything, however I simply let things take their course and in the end quit calling her. Meanwhile, I had met a truly perfect chick named Martha who I was getting to be extremely inspired by.

Yet Sheila wouldn’t release it. She would call me and attempt to rev things up once more. She would stop me in the lobby at work and rub up against me, attempting to entice me to return. Her hand constantly discovered my groin in those experiences, and I would need to physically separate myself from her. What was more terrible, she began sending “presents” to me at home. They generally had some sexual implication, dependably toward the unusual side. Like a paddle, a couple of cuffs, or a butt plug, without any end in sight. There was always a note about how she needed to get together with me to play with these toys. I was nauseated that she wouldn’t stop. Instead of discarding the crap, I generally took care of her gifts and sent them back to her, trusting that would send her a message.

Then she sent me the The Cock Trap

Then she sent one more present. It was the The Cock Trap. I didn’t realize what the hellfire it was when I initially opened it. After I read the guidelines and made sense of what it was, I was more disturbed than any time in recent memory. I couldn’t accept the fact that any gentleman would really wear such a thing willfully. At this point I saw the note from her. I don’t recollect the careful words she choose, yet this one was diverse in tone. Rather than her normal culpable welcome to come play with her and her toys, she appeared to at last recognize that things were over for us, and that this was her goodbye blessing. She was sending it to me in light of the fact that she thought each man ought to have one. “Don’t send it back” she said. On the off chance that I didn’t need it, I should discard it, however at any rate attempt to use it at least once just for the experience. I pushed it away and got prepared to go out with a few companions. It was Friday night.

So… I tried it on

I was all around inebriated when I returned home, and saw her little gift sitting on the table where I had abandoned it. I lifted it up, aiming to throw it. What got into me next I don’t know, yet it was the greatest oversight of my life. For some insane reason, I choose to place it on. It was probably because of the liquor, I figure, making me sufficiently inquisitive to perceive how it felt. Also, to check whether it truly worked the way it should. So I really put the damn thing on. I fitted the pieces together, placed my cock inside the bended tube and it brought me some completely unforeseen energy. At that point I thought “What the hell! I should get the full experience!” and without further thought got the little metal latch and bolted it on.

I wore it around the house for a little time, just to see how it felt on. No major ordeal, truly. It was well made and agreeable to wear. Also, it obviously performed its expected capacity. Whatever starting energy I had begun to die down. After around a half hour I wanted to place Sheila’s goodbye gift on top of a junk pile, and go to bed. I dumped the three lock keys out of the container and got one to open it.

The key didn’t work. It wouldn’t even go in the keyhole. I didn’t crack at first on the grounds that I figured it simply wasn’t manufactured properly, and I thought that one of the alternate keys would pop the lock open. Anyway, they didn’t work either. None of them would even go in.

I didn’t crack. I was certain I could get the thing off some other way. Yet to make a long story short, after an hour of taking a stab at all that I could consider, including pulling, extending, soaping, lubing and more. I acknowledged there was no chance in hell that this thing would come off of my cock, without getting the key to the lock. I began thinking about whether I would need to call the manufacturer, to get them to send me the right key.

I attempted all the keys once more. It was awful. At this point I took a look at them closely. They were indistinguishable to one another, yet they weren’t even the same brand as the lock. I could see how the wrong arrangement of keys may wind up with the wrong bolt at the lock manufacturing plant. Yet how the hell could keys from alternate manufacturers arrive in the one package. Unless somebody deliberately set me up.

Sheila set me up

In one of those stunning breakthrough moments, I abruptly knew precisely what had happened. Sheila had deliberately exchanged the keys, on the off chance that I would attempt to wear the chastity device and lock it. I was in disbelief. Sheila had the keys to the chastity device that now detained my penis. I didn’t realise in this moment she is my chastity keyholder.

This was a monstrosity. I spent one more hour wildly attempting to get the thing off, without success. At last, depleted, I went to bed. When I woke in the morning, it was like in penis jail where I couldn’t get an erection. I spent the entire day attempting to consider approaches to get it off. By late evening, I acknowledged I was going to need to do what I ridiculously loathed doing. Go request that Sheila let me out.

I went to Sheila’s house

She opened her doorway, radiating in happiness. I’m certain she had spotted me through her peephole. With fake blamelessness she asked, “Whatever brings you over, dear? Did you come to play with me?” I pushed pass her into her loft. “You know damn well why I’m here,” I said. As I passed by, her hand went to my groin and measured it. She quickly could tell what I wore under my jeans and she chuckled generously so everyone could hear. “At long last you choose to use one of my presents?” she asked and snickered. “I’m touched, dear, I truly am.”

“Hold on!” I snapped. “Give me the keys so I can escape from here.”

Sheila said “Well, that is barely the tone to use with somebody who holds the way to your future, if you catch my drift. Also, I guarantee you sweetheart, if that little lock ever does get opened, it will be by me and not by you.”

I frowned at her. “See, Sheila, you know it’s over between us. This was a clever little joke, and yes I succumbed to it, yet now it’s over. You’ve had your chuckle. Simply issue me the keys if you don’t mind?”

Sheila retorted “It’s no joke, and this is not over. This whole situation is on you, and I’m one who can take it off. Also, you should quiet down, in light of the fact that the keys aren’t even here. In case you’re a decent boy, I may go get them for you. Anyway we have a couple of things to do first. For one thing, I simply need to see how it looks on you. Take off your garments.”

I glared. What the fuck did she need? She was more troublesome than I anticipated. Be that as it may I understood that for the time being at any rate, she was on the high ground. I stripped and exposed myself before her. Anyhow it was totally mortifying to give her a chance to see me with that contraption on. She looked at me up and down. She grinned the whole time. At that point she stopped to analyse my cock. She fingered all the fittings, pulled it and pulled on my balls until she knew that it was on for good.

“I have a couple of errands,” she said. “Maybe I’ll have some room in my schedule to recover the keys, but maybe not. Meanwhile, I’ve got a couple of errands I need you to do while I’m out.” She took me to the kitchen. The sink was loaded with grimy dishes. “Apologies, the dishwasher’s broken. You’ll need to do it the way our forefathers would have done it. When you’re done, dust and vacuum the foyer and storeroom. I’ll require the washroom cleaned. The supplies are under the sink. That ought to be sufficient to keep you occupied until I get back.”

I tried to talk, she raised her hand to cut me off. “This is the only chance you have to get it off, sweetheart. I won’t consider letting you out if your jobs are not done when I get back.” Then she got together my garments, placed them in a little travel bag, and was out the entryway before I could do or say anything. She wanted me to do all the jobs naked. I was insulted at the way she was exploiting my situation, however there wasn’t a damn thing I could do about it. My brain simply kind of went on auto-pilot and I became acquainted with it. I had to submit to her domination.

I was completing my job in the washroom when I heard her arrival. I stayed where and continued to work. I wasn’t ready to see her. I could hear her moving around in the flat, most likely examining my work. She put her head in the washroom entryway. “Looks radiant, dear. When you’re set in here, return to my room.”

When I strolled through her room’s entryway, I discovered her nestled on the bed, grinning bashfully at me. “What the hell!” I thought. It’s accurate to say that she was going to need a goodbye fuck after she takes this thing off me? By then I was willing to do about anything to get this scene over with. Furthermore, I need to concede, she truly was dazzling and unbelievably attractive. I felt my cock attempting to become erect in the chastity device. “Alright Sheila, I’ve played your games to your amusement. Your loft’s cleaner than my home ever was. Where’s the keys?”

Sheila said “The keys? Gracious, I totally overlooked them. I’ll get them later.” As she was talking, she inclined back against the cushions heaped up against her headboard and spread her legs out wide. She pointed towards her pussy and said, “Do one more thing for me, sweetheart. After, we can discuss letting you out.”

We had intercourse multiple times, yet this was one little thing I had never performed on her. Damn it, she’s going to drain this for everything it is worth. I slithered up between her legs and went to take a shot at her. In spite of myself, I got turned on sexually by the entire scene, which made my cock strain relentlessly against the chastity device. It took a considerable measure of diligent work and quite a while to make her orgasm. Be that as it may I at last got her off.

She laid back with her eyes shut, murmuring cheerily. I began to lift my head up however her hands discovered the highest point of my head and pushed my face over into her pussy, making me flounder in her pussy. At that point she began stroking and tapping my head like I was her little pet. “Such a decent boy” she mumbled.

Finally, she swung her legs over my head and got up. She hurled my garments on the bed. “You can get dressed now, dear, and hurry along home. I have a few companions impending over for supper. I considered having you stay to cook for us, however I’ve chosen to spare that task for next time. Much obliged for the cleaning, however.”

I asked “Yet shouldn’t something be said about …?” She quickly responded “It’s not going to happen. Not today. You have to get used to wearing it. Be that as it may dear, if your execution today is any sign, you’re well on your approach to gaining a couple of minutes out of it at some point.”

Sheila wouldn’t give me the key to the chastity device!

What really mattered was that she declined to deliver the key, and there was nothing I could do about it. The following week I was damned. I needed to figure out how to live with a cock in chastity twenty-four hours a day. My morning wood, or what ought to have been erections, were fiercely painful. At work she would stop by my office, teasing me and asking me how her little detainee was doing. On Friday, she instructed me to come over on Saturday. It was the ideal time to perform some tasks once more. I went. She let me get dressed before her companions came over, however I needed to tend to them in every way under the sun through supper and drinks. I had to clean up afterwards in the kitchen.

It has been three months now, she still won’t let my penis out of the chastity device. Not even once. For three months, I’ve had no erections or climaxes. Not that my cock doesn’t strain and attempt to. I’ve never seen the key which could discharge me from my torment, and she has guaranteed me that I will never, ever, discover it. I’ve implored her to take that horrendous thing off of me. I’ve argued. I’ve attempted to dissuade her, to arrange it with her. I’ve offered to issue her anything she needs, to pay her any total of cash. I’ve asked her what issues she had with me, given her the privilege to answer them discretionarily and she continues to deny me of my masculinity. Nothing gets me anywhere. She is the most unflinching lady I have ever met once she makes the decision to something. She undauntedly declines to discharge me. She is totally inflexible in her will. “I adore seeing you like this, sweetheart. It’s a good time for me.” That’s all the clarification she will issue me.

For the time being, I have no decisions in the matter, and I realize that my desire to be discharged from this life of chastity lies in keeping her satisfied so I have learned how to be the perfect submissive in chastity. She’s made that unmistakable to me. She helps me to remember it regularly. So I serve her. I’ve kept on performing my obligations week by week at her home, both work tasks and sexual tasks. She cherishes to straddle me and ride my face to her climax, her fingers profoundly intertwined in my hair. She’s told her companions about me. Sometimes if I am lucky she changes me into a surgical stainless steel chastity device.

Last week, she shut down her condo and moved into my home with me. So now my subjugation is performed in my own home, where she has assumed responsibility of all family choices. She has ordered that we live as sweethearts, with the exception of the detained status of my masculinity. What’s more, I found out that she kept all the sex toys I had sent back to her. As a rule she spares those for weekend play sessions, however I know I may feel the sting of the paddle whenever my execution level tumbles off.

Every night I lick her out. We lay together and we caress and stroke one another as though we were genuine sweethearts. She likes to pet my balls as she nods off, and again when she wakes in the morning.

We’re getting hitched in two months. I don’t love her, however I need to concede I’ve built up an abnormal desiring for her being around and an odd overwhelming need to satisfy her. It’s strange on the grounds that I can remember when I had none of those affections for her. However at times the silliness and boldness of what she is doing to me just overpowers me inwardly. I’ve come to levels of disappointment so extreme that I’ve really cried.

In the event that I keep on being a decent kid, she’s guaranteed to consider letting me out incidentally on our wedding night.

“I’ll be secured” she says.

So that my little penis jail can go right back in later. Also, she isn’t promising a climax. It may just be a chance for my pee-pee to be out in the open for a long teasing session. She alludes to my penis as my “pee-pee” and demands that I do too. In light of the fact that, peeing is all that it does now.

I think about it here and there. The future alarms me. I sincerely don’t know to what extent I can persevere through the life that Sheila has picked for me. Yet, I must choose between limited options, other than to persevere. I take each day by itself thus far I have figured out how to survive. I serve her obediently and I appeal to God for any benevolence she wants to demonstrate to me. I can hardly wait for our wedding night. I’m trained to be her cuckold for life.

September 6, 2018March 31, 2020

Couples Chastity Play!

Male chastity in couples, regardless of the gender of the key holder, is specifically about control. Whether this control stems from jealousy, playful BDSM or a desire to be controlling and controlled, or even something else varies between couples. There are sufferers of Othello Syndrome – which is characterized as delusional, or pathological jealousy – whom have found comfort in Chastity devices whilst they undergo therapy, but it should be noted that in general, jealousy and mistrust does not constitute a chastity device and the couple need to work on their relationship before considering this type of play.

The reason is that jealousy can change the dynamic of the power relations, the key holder can often become intentionally cruel or abusive and this can create a dangerous situation for the chaste male. That’s not to say that jealousy and mistrust don’t always play some part on chastity cages, but if it is the primary aspect, then consider yourself warned. For the most part, male chastity toys are about control in some varied form of a BDSM relationship. It most often appears as a power play between a dominant and submissive, and chastity can also be used in pet play. Power control is the fundamental aspect within a master/slave, mistress/slave, and owner/property situation and that power can be demonstrated through the act of denying pleasure and inflicting pain. The infliction of pain being through the constant sexual and physical teasing/stimulation that a dominant can give their chaste male.

1. Communication:-

Have you both discussed a relationship that uses chastity devices or any kind of couples sex toys and are you both comfortable with it? You both need to have a clear discussion on what you both would like to get out of it. There is absolutely no point in doing this if one partner is driving this over the other. What this can result in is a variation of the relationship that we described above – where the dominant exceeds the boundaries of a dominant relationship and can become physically and mentally abusive in ways that are outside the realm of what was agreed upon. If one partner really wants to be dominant or submissive and the other is just not feeling it, then you need to take a step back, let each other think on it for a while before bringing it up again. Failure to do so could potentially be more harmful to the relationship as it can be seen as an indication of not acknowledging the needs of the other individual.

2. Research:-

The second thing you both need to do is research. There are three things that you will need to research; chastity cages, the role of chastity, and D/s relationships. Even if your chastity relationship does not centeron a D/s relationship, I can guarantee that you’re going to find it a useful endeavor as it will help define the chastity relationship in helping you both understand the dynamics of the relationship, as well as the potential for it to grow. You will also need to spend a considerable amount of time researching chastity toys and a good start would be to go into an adult lifestyle centre so you can see the full range available. You need to consider several things including; material, cock size, when you’ll be wearing it, as well as how this will impact your day to day life. If your boyfriend/husband/partner drives heavy equipment all day then perhaps you could only use the chastity devices on weekends, or at home.

Alternatively a flexible and easily hidden material such as silicone will need to be used, or as he’s learning to cope with the toy he may need to be given a key. Ultimately, you will need to find a balance between pleasure and practicality and be in a position to provide accommodations when you first start . Secondly, the size of ones cock will have an impact on the actual chastity toy.

You will certainly need to consider the size of the cock ring aspect and you can do this by measuring up. Grab a piece of string, place the string around the base of a flaccid cock. Measure the length of the string and divide by 3.14. You will now have roughly the diameter of the ring that you’ll need to wear in order to wear it comfortably.

Chastity Research — Researching Chastity

3. Contract:-

Communication should be a continual thing throughout a chastity relationship, from the moment of bringing the idea of chastity up, to the moment that the chastity device has been put on and being tested. There needs to be communication at all stages and consent from all parties involved. Before embarking on a D(ominant)/s(ubmissive) relationship – it might be a good idea to draw up a contract. In fact, we seriously recommend it and believe that no D/s relationship should begin without one. It might sound formal, it might sound silly, but what it does is that it sets up the boundaries within the relationship through negotiation and defining the relationship. The development of a D/s contract is the best way to;

– Discuss what you both want out of the relationship. This will include your needs and expectations.

– Establish Goals by setting rules, responsibilities and an understanding of each other’s limits.

– Establish your ground by knowing exactly where you stand and what is expected from you within this relationship.

– Set steps – it’s unwise to simply jump into a fully-fledged relationship without making small steps and going through different phases as you learn, grow and accept your new relationship roles.

– A contract will easily allow you to review your progress as per the goals you have set, reflect upon your growth and journey and make changes as per necessary to ensure that you’re staying true to the document.

– It ensures that your commitment is seen as official. Whilst a D/s contract is not legally binding, it is a fundamentally important tool that will help guide your relationship.

Check Out The Contract For Female Dom Sub

Check Out The Contract For Female Mistress Slave

The above links offer some blank contracts which are simply a matter of copying and pasting in names, removing parts which do not apply, and adding parts which do. These are for FemDom however you can just change the genders for Male Dom. Even if you are a trained lawyer, we recommend having a look at other peoples contracts so that you can an understanding of what is required and expected of, within a contract so that you are both happy with the outcome. In essence, a contract is simply a guidance tool to the relationship, and an explanation of the rules, boundaries and limits of each party. Communication is essential in setting up a chastity relationship, and it is an essential part in reviewing the relationship and checking in to see how it’s going and whether its working for you, and if not, what changes need to be made. Without communication, without solid communication, the relationship will not work. Period.

4. Buying A Chastity Device:-

Once you’ve researched a device and you’ve both settled on one comfortably, it’s time to make your purchase and take it home. You can do this by either looking at them in understanding adult store or selecting them from online. Once you’ve gotten it home, you both need to spend some time with your new device, examining it, opening and closing it until you’re comfortable with it. You can then get him to put it on – I make the suggestion for him to put it on only because he’ll be more comfortable and understanding of his cock and balls in a way that shouldn’t necessarily cause pain. Make sure it fits well, whilst taking into consideration that he will need to pee, yet contain his erections and not allow him access to play with his cock. After he has practiced taking it on and off a few times then you should be right to give it a go.

5. Changes:-

Having a chastity toy bolted around his cock might seem pretty simple, but he will need to have a couple of days to get used to the sensation and finding new ways to move around and do certain things. For example, he might not be able to wear tight running shorts, or he may find it easier to sit down when he pees. Cocks can get uncomfortable in pants sometimes, now consider a piece of metal or some other material strapped around it. If you want to immediately jump into play – do it in small doses and do not leave him unsupervised for long periods without emergency access to a key. Start by wearing it for short periods of a time to begin with, and learning to handle the toy through every day use. Wearing it on weekends for the entire day is also a good start. Once he is comfortable wearing it for extended periods, and has grown to being able to handle it for an entire day, then you can move on to wearing it overnight. Learning to wear a cock cage overnight is one of the most difficult things to do, as he will have to learn to cope with the numerous night time erections that he gets. Once he can wear it overnight, you can then slowly expand that to a day and a night, a few days continuously and so on and so forth. Once he’s settled in and broken the device in – there should only be access granted to an emergency key under strict circumstances.

6. The Key Holder:-

As the key holder you have certain responsibilities, as does he in his confinement. You need to determine what is appropriate and what is not within the pre-established set of rules. You cannot withhold an emergency key for emergency health and safety situations, nor should you not give him access to clean himself and the toy. Indeed, cleaning is an important part of being in a chastity. At first, he will need to take it off to clean every few days, but as he grows more comfortable with the device this can extend to a weekly thorough clean. To deny him the chance to clean can result in serious health issues – whilst we’re not suggesting that he be let loose with the key during cleaning (he can be supervised), you should never deny someone this. This is the part that is about pleasure and pain.

As key holder, you not only hold the key to the device, but also any form of sexual pleasure that you wish to engage in. This is especially useful in control situations whereby you can request favors of the submissive in return for sexual release in any form that you, as the key holder, choose. Once you realize that you are the sole key of any form of sexual pleasure for him and you utilize that knowledge in creative ways – you both should be having a lot more fun! If you haven’t already it might pay to read the article on being a key holder, elsewhere on this site.