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October 10, 2018March 31, 2020

Solo Male Chastity!

Not everyone that engages in practicing male chastity is in a relationship. Nor, do they necessarily want to be in a relationship or better yet, they may not even require sexual satisfaction. It’s an interesting phenomenon that sees solo male chastity as either becoming a part of the desexualisation of the male figure, or as an attempt to curb their own sexual habits or even to abate their own sexual interests. Solo male chastity is a very interesting aspect of chastity because the psychology is vastly different than what it is within couple chastity.

In solo chastity, the key holder is essentially yourself, you both deny yourself and release yourself based on you and your needs. Sure, you can ask a friend to mind the key, and there are some friends out there that will not even hesitate to do this. Yet, not everyone has the friend, and the premise of solo chastity relies on your own ability to avoid temptation. There are many reasons why people will engage in solo male chastity. They might feel that they have a sexual compulsion problem which needs to be curbed, they might feel that they need to refocus their sexual energy towards other pursuits and endeavors, they might relish the idea of a personal challenge, they might find the idea of an unknown key holder to be incredibly alluring or they might simply seek to try something new. There are a variety of reasons why someone will engage themselves in solo male chastity.

Curbing Addiction:-

Fetish Porn is an incredibly large commodity in today’s media driven world with an estimated 71% percent of internet users at some stage accessing or consuming pornography. A study from 2009 suggested that the average single male consumed about 2 hours’ worth of porn per week. That’s on average, so there are a lot of males who consume porn at a much higher rate than that. 20% of males in the United States have admitted to accessing pornography at work. With such worrying statistics is it any wonder that some men seek the need to find help? I’m by no means suggesting that the consumption of pornography is a bad thing and there are plenty of studies that agree with this statement – however, as with most things too much of a certain thing can lead to issues. It can become problematic as the situation might cloud their judgement, or it might become an obstacle in daily life, or work life. We’ve mentioned several time throughout this website, that some people choose chastity in order to refocus their sexual energy onto different tasks, and this ‘addiction’ or consumption of pornography might be standing in the way of a few things. It is no small wonder than that there are men out there who, in order to curb their pornography consumption, have chosen to use a chastity device.

The benefits of using a chastity device are that it can lead to an increase in self-control, will power and determination; qualities which can transcend the realm of chastity devices and affect an individual’s daily life as well. Many men report that they have used a chastity device at work in order to help stave off their erections, arousal levels and become more productive at work. However, it does take a while to achieve that higher productivity as you become used to wearing a cage around your cock with the key safely at home. Thinking of the science of chastity and reading that article will help you in understanding the time lengths it can potentially take to increase productivity amidst the rollercoaster ride of dopamine, prolactin, and oxytocin. These men have also found that their orgasms are much stronger when they do eventually find sexual release simply because they’ve been holding out on themselves.

Asexuality & Low Sex Drives:-

The asexual population, or rather those that aren’t into sex or have exceptionally low sex drives, are also users of the chastity device. I was speaking to a friend recently with whom I asked about his decision to wear a chastity device. He explained it to me as whilst he found no sexual attraction in anyone, nor did he have a particularly high sex drive – he still would randomly get erections as the body tested out the arteries and ensures that everything was still functioning. He wore the chastity cage for two reasons; the first reason being that it prevented him getting erections. He’d read about the uses of chastity cages and discovered that there were some men out there who had managed to learn to control their erections throughout the day.

This appealed to my friend greatly, who often felt rather embarrassed at the thought of having an erection in front of other people. The second reason he offered was that it was a safety net for him. He had a very low sex drive, but that didn’t mean he didn’t want to occasionally have sex or jerk himself off. This secured his cock firmly in a cage, the key safely at home and he didn’t feel the need to indulge himself every now and then. For him it was about the comfort and the satisfaction of knowing that if he was placed in a situation whereby his bodily urges attempted to overtake him, he would still be in control. Think of it like putting your Credit card in a cube of ice, to delay spending money that you do not have.

Further, there are some guys out there who want to practice celibacy, whether that be permanently, for a period of time due to religious or personal beliefs, or even if they simply want to cleanse the body. Cock cages work wonderfully for these types of people who are new to practicing celibacy and need a bit of an extra security blanket to ensure that they don’t stray. These are only a couple of the reasons that single men choose to wear cock cages – but I hope that it provides a little insight into a seemingly mysterious world.

Unknown Key Holders:-

There are actually forums, and dedicated websites to individuals who want to be online key holder for other people. They find the idea of being in control of someone’s sexual urges to be a turn on for themselves, and they are there to help the people who want to engage in chastity, yet aren’t in a relationship, don’t have a friend willing to help and yet still want to be in a chastity relationship. These people might market themselves as chastity trainers, or as Mistresses and Masters who will look after you, and help you achieve the lifestyle of chastity that you want. Chastity slaves are generally held captive by their keyholder either through the physical submission of their key, or will be given a new lock with a code with which the chaste male may request for different reasons. There are a few things which might be different with an online chastity relationship as opposed to physical chastity relationship.

The male seeking chastity may discuss with the key-holder the length of time that the male has to remain in the chastity device. Once the allocated time has passed, the key or code will be given in order to free them. If the chaste male has broken a rule, or a guideline, then an extension of chastity may be given. The time may be days, weeks or even months, or it could be left unneeded with the chaste male having to perform certain tasks in order to complete his sentence.

relating to each other — key communication

Communication Is Key. As with all submissive and dominant relationships limits are discussed, put into a document or agreement and signed/agreed to by all parties. It would be wise to ensure that there is an agreement so that there are a sense of guidelines to the relationship.

A Physical Key, or code must be given to a third individual/party or put in safe keeping for emergencies. If something were to happen to the dominant, or key holder and there was an emergency, allowances must be given so that the chaste male can obtain freedom.

Once limits have been set, the chaste male has given over all control. From here the keyholder could get them to perform daily tasks, have fun with them in humiliating and obscene ways, or simply ensure that the chaste male is following all instructions. Failure to do this could result in an extension of the time spent in chastity, or they might be given increasingly humiliating acts as a form of punishment. Though it should be noted that not all chastity relationships contain elements of humiliation and that there are other tasks that can be completed in the absence of humiliation. In virtual key holding situations – the chaste male will need to provide proof that the tasks are being completed and proof could be given in the form of photos, videos, emails, text, or voice. The situations and the tasks are endless. We have provided an example of some humiliating assignments that might be used:

Do not wear underwear and socks
Go to a nude beach
Walk around gym locker room nude
Wear white spandex/lycra while jogging or at gym
Shower only with cold water
Insert 2 golf balls in the ass for 24 hours
Shave all body hair below your neck. Keep shaved during sentence
Wear a leather slave collar in public
Wear a butt plug with a tail on it for an entire day
Grab a black marker and write your penis size on your head in inches/cm and then go shopping.
Go to a gym with showers and take a shower with chastity cage in front of your gym buddies
Take a bunch of photos with you naked and wearing the chastity cage in range of different positions. Send it to the Keyholder
Write a 2000 word essay on the benefits of chastity and send it to the Keyholder
Take a picture kneeling and naked wearing the chastity cage in a changing room at the shopping centre
List 50 reasons why it is a privilege to be allowed to be kept in chastity by the Keyholder (We have acquired this task through a chaste slave and posted it in an article on this website)

What these tasks are designed to do is to incorporate and reinforce the dominant and submissive relationship through the unknown key-holder. Such assignments are not for everyone, and there may be a discussion as to the types of assignments that are doable when setting the guidelines of the relationship – but it is the mission of the dominant to slowly increase your boundaries, though a good dominant will understand those boundaries and push them without breaking them.

Solo Chastity:-

The last group of individuals are the ones that simply want to enjoy solo chastity without the influence of others. They could constitute a combination of any of the above mentioned feelings, and they might not have any. They may simply enjoy being caged and the self-control that they are physically putting on themselves. In our next article we will go through some of the safety tips as well as some games that might be played by people in solo chastity.

There are in fact hundreds of thousands of people that prescribe to this and groups like NoFap claim to be a secular porn-recovery community.

October 4, 2018March 31, 2020

10 Commandments For The Chaste Male!

10 Commandments Of Male Chastity For The Chaste Male!!

ONE:-

Your keyholder is your owner and as such they own every part of you and your body and in return you must love and obey them. Your keyholder is entitled to determine which parts of your body are used, and when they are used. With this in mind, your owner has every right to secure your penis in some form of chastity device of both of your choosing. Your owner may lock you up at any time they choose, and for however long they deem in necessary.

TWO:-

Your owner does not need to provide you with any justification or reason in order to secure you in a chastity device. Your only concern is that your owner wants to, and that by itself is reason enough. Whether you want to be secured or not, has no relevance to the situation as per the agreement made in your relationship and Chastity Document.

THREE:-

Under no circumstances (excepting in health and safety emergencies) are you permitted to attempt to remove, alter, or bypass the chastity device with which you have been secured. You, under the terms of the relationship with which you have agreed to, are fully obligated to co-operate with your owner in the fitting of the chastity device and help your owner in the securement of your manhood. You must draw your owners attention to any fault in the device which may impact on its functionality so that your owner can ensure that the device performs as it is intended to perform.

FOUR:-

It is your responsibility and duty to keep yourself clean and care for in the area of your manhood so that the wearing of the device is not impeded through health concerns. Following regular cleaning and care, you can continue to be locked up for as long as your owner demands it of you. This is inclusive to the submission of prostate milking so that you can be cleaned internally as well.

FIVE:-

You must remember that your owner has locked up your manhood for the precise reason that you can no longer play with yourself or achieve an erection or orgasm. Your manhood is no longer there for your pleasure, but for your owners. Your sole duty is to carry them around for your owner. If erections cause discomfort, then don’t do it.

SIX:-

It is your duty and obligation to inform your owner of your experiences whilst wearing the device. You should regularly look at your chastity cage in order to remind yourself of the pleasures that you once had that were in your control and which are now locked away from you. You should let your owner know how you feel, as they may enjoy hearing about your suffering and longing.

SEVEN:-

Your owner, in the form of humiliation and subject to your agreement, is entitled to remind you about your inability to obtain an erection, get any form of sexual release. Your owner has taken that away from you and chooses to enjoy that teasing. Your owner can get satisfaction at any time that they want, whereas you cannot. Your owner will find this amusing and want to remind you about this continually.

EIGHT:-

Dependent on the agreement that you have signed, your secret is not entitled to remain a secret. If your owner chooses to tell people about the chastity device, your owner may do so.

NINE:-

Your owner is allowed to provide stimulation to you in any form that they see fit. This may be include, but not be limited to, exposure to erotic imagery and material, direct physical contact.

TEN:-

It is your duty to take pleasure in the idea that your owner takes time from their day in order to control the use of their property and that this will give them amusement. You should always be thankful for having your owner to secure you in a chastity device and you should always be letting them know how thankful you are for that. You should demonstrate this by being attentive and loyal.

Because of this you should take pleasure in the fact that your owner takes the time to control the use of her property and happy that it gives her some amusement. You should always thank her for securing you in chastity and let her know how grateful you are to have your genitals locked up under her control. You should always be happy if she decides to extend your time in chastity and tell her how much you like to continue being emasculated.

Four Commandments For The Key Holder:-

ONE:-

A key Holder should not have time to play mind games. The fact that they have a key should be indication that they are in charge.

TWO:-

There is no room for obscure power games, or power plays, or even petty maneuvering, the key holder is the key holder and that is the power that they have and are limited to.

THREE:-

A key holder has not right and is not entitled to resort to any form of abusive behaviour not outlined in the in the agreement of the relationship. They are not entitled to name calling, to put you down, belittle or physically abuse you in any form. There are always hack saws!

FOUR:-

The keyholder should remember that if they want something – then they should clearly state their needs and demands. Key Holders should not sulk, they should not confront their chaste male with such phrases as

‘You Should Have Remembered’

Or

‘How Could You Forget’.

There is no room for obscure mind games in chastity. Gone are the days when chastity and bondage was frowned upon as an alternate lifestyle choice and many partakers now use it as a form of art.

September 6, 2018March 31, 2020

Couples Chastity Play!

Male chastity in couples, regardless of the gender of the key holder, is specifically about control. Whether this control stems from jealousy, playful BDSM or a desire to be controlling and controlled, or even something else varies between couples. There are sufferers of Othello Syndrome – which is characterized as delusional, or pathological jealousy – whom have found comfort in Chastity devices whilst they undergo therapy, but it should be noted that in general, jealousy and mistrust does not constitute a chastity device and the couple need to work on their relationship before considering this type of play.

The reason is that jealousy can change the dynamic of the power relations, the key holder can often become intentionally cruel or abusive and this can create a dangerous situation for the chaste male. That’s not to say that jealousy and mistrust don’t always play some part on chastity cages, but if it is the primary aspect, then consider yourself warned. For the most part, male chastity toys are about control in some varied form of a BDSM relationship. It most often appears as a power play between a dominant and submissive, and chastity can also be used in pet play. Power control is the fundamental aspect within a master/slave, mistress/slave, and owner/property situation and that power can be demonstrated through the act of denying pleasure and inflicting pain. The infliction of pain being through the constant sexual and physical teasing/stimulation that a dominant can give their chaste male.

1. Communication:-

Have you both discussed a relationship that uses chastity devices or any kind of couples sex toys and are you both comfortable with it? You both need to have a clear discussion on what you both would like to get out of it. There is absolutely no point in doing this if one partner is driving this over the other. What this can result in is a variation of the relationship that we described above – where the dominant exceeds the boundaries of a dominant relationship and can become physically and mentally abusive in ways that are outside the realm of what was agreed upon. If one partner really wants to be dominant or submissive and the other is just not feeling it, then you need to take a step back, let each other think on it for a while before bringing it up again. Failure to do so could potentially be more harmful to the relationship as it can be seen as an indication of not acknowledging the needs of the other individual.

2. Research:-

The second thing you both need to do is research. There are three things that you will need to research; chastity cages, the role of chastity, and D/s relationships. Even if your chastity relationship does not centeron a D/s relationship, I can guarantee that you’re going to find it a useful endeavor as it will help define the chastity relationship in helping you both understand the dynamics of the relationship, as well as the potential for it to grow. You will also need to spend a considerable amount of time researching chastity toys and a good start would be to go into an adult lifestyle centre so you can see the full range available. You need to consider several things including; material, cock size, when you’ll be wearing it, as well as how this will impact your day to day life. If your boyfriend/husband/partner drives heavy equipment all day then perhaps you could only use the chastity devices on weekends, or at home.

Alternatively a flexible and easily hidden material such as silicone will need to be used, or as he’s learning to cope with the toy he may need to be given a key. Ultimately, you will need to find a balance between pleasure and practicality and be in a position to provide accommodations when you first start . Secondly, the size of ones cock will have an impact on the actual chastity toy.

You will certainly need to consider the size of the cock ring aspect and you can do this by measuring up. Grab a piece of string, place the string around the base of a flaccid cock. Measure the length of the string and divide by 3.14. You will now have roughly the diameter of the ring that you’ll need to wear in order to wear it comfortably.

Chastity Research — Researching Chastity

3. Contract:-

Communication should be a continual thing throughout a chastity relationship, from the moment of bringing the idea of chastity up, to the moment that the chastity device has been put on and being tested. There needs to be communication at all stages and consent from all parties involved. Before embarking on a D(ominant)/s(ubmissive) relationship – it might be a good idea to draw up a contract. In fact, we seriously recommend it and believe that no D/s relationship should begin without one. It might sound formal, it might sound silly, but what it does is that it sets up the boundaries within the relationship through negotiation and defining the relationship. The development of a D/s contract is the best way to;

– Discuss what you both want out of the relationship. This will include your needs and expectations.

– Establish Goals by setting rules, responsibilities and an understanding of each other’s limits.

– Establish your ground by knowing exactly where you stand and what is expected from you within this relationship.

– Set steps – it’s unwise to simply jump into a fully-fledged relationship without making small steps and going through different phases as you learn, grow and accept your new relationship roles.

– A contract will easily allow you to review your progress as per the goals you have set, reflect upon your growth and journey and make changes as per necessary to ensure that you’re staying true to the document.

– It ensures that your commitment is seen as official. Whilst a D/s contract is not legally binding, it is a fundamentally important tool that will help guide your relationship.

Check Out The Contract For Female Dom Sub

Check Out The Contract For Female Mistress Slave

The above links offer some blank contracts which are simply a matter of copying and pasting in names, removing parts which do not apply, and adding parts which do. These are for FemDom however you can just change the genders for Male Dom. Even if you are a trained lawyer, we recommend having a look at other peoples contracts so that you can an understanding of what is required and expected of, within a contract so that you are both happy with the outcome. In essence, a contract is simply a guidance tool to the relationship, and an explanation of the rules, boundaries and limits of each party. Communication is essential in setting up a chastity relationship, and it is an essential part in reviewing the relationship and checking in to see how it’s going and whether its working for you, and if not, what changes need to be made. Without communication, without solid communication, the relationship will not work. Period.

4. Buying A Chastity Device:-

Once you’ve researched a device and you’ve both settled on one comfortably, it’s time to make your purchase and take it home. You can do this by either looking at them in understanding adult store or selecting them from online. Once you’ve gotten it home, you both need to spend some time with your new device, examining it, opening and closing it until you’re comfortable with it. You can then get him to put it on – I make the suggestion for him to put it on only because he’ll be more comfortable and understanding of his cock and balls in a way that shouldn’t necessarily cause pain. Make sure it fits well, whilst taking into consideration that he will need to pee, yet contain his erections and not allow him access to play with his cock. After he has practiced taking it on and off a few times then you should be right to give it a go.

5. Changes:-

Having a chastity toy bolted around his cock might seem pretty simple, but he will need to have a couple of days to get used to the sensation and finding new ways to move around and do certain things. For example, he might not be able to wear tight running shorts, or he may find it easier to sit down when he pees. Cocks can get uncomfortable in pants sometimes, now consider a piece of metal or some other material strapped around it. If you want to immediately jump into play – do it in small doses and do not leave him unsupervised for long periods without emergency access to a key. Start by wearing it for short periods of a time to begin with, and learning to handle the toy through every day use. Wearing it on weekends for the entire day is also a good start. Once he is comfortable wearing it for extended periods, and has grown to being able to handle it for an entire day, then you can move on to wearing it overnight. Learning to wear a cock cage overnight is one of the most difficult things to do, as he will have to learn to cope with the numerous night time erections that he gets. Once he can wear it overnight, you can then slowly expand that to a day and a night, a few days continuously and so on and so forth. Once he’s settled in and broken the device in – there should only be access granted to an emergency key under strict circumstances.

6. The Key Holder:-

As the key holder you have certain responsibilities, as does he in his confinement. You need to determine what is appropriate and what is not within the pre-established set of rules. You cannot withhold an emergency key for emergency health and safety situations, nor should you not give him access to clean himself and the toy. Indeed, cleaning is an important part of being in a chastity. At first, he will need to take it off to clean every few days, but as he grows more comfortable with the device this can extend to a weekly thorough clean. To deny him the chance to clean can result in serious health issues – whilst we’re not suggesting that he be let loose with the key during cleaning (he can be supervised), you should never deny someone this. This is the part that is about pleasure and pain.

As key holder, you not only hold the key to the device, but also any form of sexual pleasure that you wish to engage in. This is especially useful in control situations whereby you can request favors of the submissive in return for sexual release in any form that you, as the key holder, choose. Once you realize that you are the sole key of any form of sexual pleasure for him and you utilize that knowledge in creative ways – you both should be having a lot more fun! If you haven’t already it might pay to read the article on being a key holder, elsewhere on this site.

September 6, 2018March 31, 2020

50 Reasons To Wear A Chastity Device!

1. I wanted to stop masturbating and stay pure, clean and ready to make love with my life whenever that she chose.

2. I wanted to surrender the complete control of my manhood to my wife, and to reassure her that I did not cheat (which included playing with myself), when I was traveling for work.

3. I wanted to increase and heighten awareness of myself when it came to the ideas of sexual relief and pleasure.

4. By stopping my ability to masturbate, I in turn would become very attentive to my wife. During previous sexual activities I would always come too quickly, and now the focus has shift to me being able to pleasure and satisfy my wife by giving her repeated orgasms whenever she chooses.

5. To stop masturbating for no reason. By not having the ability to masturbate, it makes me incredibly horny all of the time as I am now in a constant awareness of my penis.

6. Even though I am no longer able to get an erection except when my wife chooses, i am still mentally aroused by her sight, as well as the feeling and physical act of being locked in a chastity cage.

7. I wanted to satisfy my wife in all things sexual and I can do this by remaining in a constant and continual state of arousal. This allows me to serve her every wish and desire without the distraction of my own sexual release. I adore the constant teasing that occurs through the use of wearing a chastity device. I love channeling this teasing into discovering new ways to pleasure and satisfy my wife in ways other than through the act of penetration.

8. I wanted to satisfy my wife and make her happy by being a better husband. My removing the distraction of sexual energy I have now found that my time and attention are going to who and what is important, where this wasn’t the case before being put into chastity. My mind is now in the right place, and for the right reasons.

9. I wanted to increase the sexual tension in our relationship. By avoiding all masturbation, I am now saving my sexual energy for the love of my life, my key holder.

10. I believe that every male should be kept in a state of chastity and denied sexual pleasure until the time comes where his dominant deems it appropriate to release him.

11. I wanted to experience the frustration of being unable to secure sexual release and I view this as a sign of devotion for and towards my wife.

12. I wanted to be easier to control, and to learn how to be a much nicer, more attentive husband. I love the feeling of being controlled.

13. The thrill of being chaste appeals to me, as I enjoy being the slave to a woman.

14. To cease the useless act of masturbation and to ensure being fully given to my wife. Giving her the attention and energy that she deserves.

15. I find arousal in the idea that I am unable to get an erection. I am now fully aware of my manhood at all times and understand the limitations that it had placed onto me.

16. I wanted to spice up my sex life and to be in a position to fully understand, and demonstrate, the love that I have for my wife.

17. I wanted the fantasy of being a chaste male and the opportunity to exercise physical self-control.

18. I wanted to sacrifice my needs so that I could better please my partner, and be in a position where she has the attention that she deserves for being my wife.

19. I wanted to serve my mistress, give myself wholly unto her whims and desires. I find the idea of edging to be incredibly erotic, and I enjoy the constant teasing and being turned on even though i cannot release it.

20. I wanted to be able to serve my wife better, and not be wasting any of my energy towards my own selfish pleasure.

21. I found that I was using masturbation which would impact my sex life with my wife. I wanted to refocus the sexual energy and behavior that I was exhibiting back, exclusively, towards my wife.

22. To increase attentiveness through the use of sexual frustration. This frustration has increased my levels of intimacy and devotion.

23. My wife likes to be in control when it comes to our sexual intimacy, and enjoy surrendering it wholly to her.

24. I want to work towards longer term bondage. The focus of the key holder is very intense and there is an incredible sense of belonging when one is under someone else’s control for a period of time, and perhaps indefinitely. I have found that this is an exceptionally good idea for maintaining a relationship.

25. I like the idea of being forced to please my wife when there is no guarantee for my releasing and there is potentially no relief for my longing and suffering. I like the building up of sexual tension until the moment that it is released and at my wife’s desire.

26. My keyholder has told me that the longer that I wear my chastity device, the more sexual and erotic I become when I do nothing else but serve her whims and desires.

27. Chastity has made our sex life amazing, and I enjoy the comfort and safety in the knowledge that she now trusts me completely, as I am no longer in a position to potentially have sex with anyone other than my wife.

28. By not being able to have sex, it makes me exceptionally conscious and aware of the enjoyment of sex. In addition, I no longer have to attempt or seek permission to initiate sexual activity, as the choice is now wholly up to her.

29. Every night is now far more erotic, even when I find that my wife is not in the mood for sex. The buildup of sexual tension is amazing.

30. It is the wish of my wife. I am now, her property.

31. Chastity has led me to being able to control my masturbation and pornography habits.

32. I find that chastity excites me. I enjoy the humiliation that I feel not being able to control my sexual desires and manhood and I love the control that this has given to my wife.

33. I have found that being unable to satisfy my sexual urges that it has increased my arousal levels, and makes me incredibly horny most of the time. It satiates my submissive feelings and plays with my mind.

34. There is an increased sexual excitement through the use of this form of bondage.

35. I found this an exciting and new way to experiment and enhance the sexual nature of our relationship.

36. I love my wife, she makes me whole, and I want to devote my life to her through being the most attentive, and the most loyal partner than I can be.

37. When wearing the device I have discovered how different sex makes me. I am now more caring, more attentive, and more devoted to my partner than I was before.

38. My orgasms are now more intense through the heightened and prolonged sense of foreplay. Not knowing if this is the moment where I will get the opportunity to be free, adds to the excitement of being in chastity, and makes me try harder to make my wife happy in the hope that she will release me.

39. I am aroused by the fun and frustration of not being in control. I like my partner being in control as I find this to be very arousing.

40. Chastity was the completion of a personal fantasy of mine. I enjoy serving my wife, and being controlled. My sexual needs and desires are now the control of my wife, and my sexual release will be continually denied until it suits her.

41. There is an excruciating pleasure of not being able to be in control. This pleasure was frustrating and made me angry at first, until I had learned to channel that energy on to the pleasuring of my wife.

42. I am not able to focus wholly on her with no distractions. My release is subject to her control, my orgasms when I get them are more intense.

43. Through chastity I am able to experience more powerful sexual activities and to be far more loving to my partner.

44. I now understand that my wife wants me solely for her sexual gratification. The sole reason as to why I am now wearing one (as I would never have agreed to it to begin with) was that I simply woke up one morning to find it had been attached to me. In her mind, she put it on my so that we could be more intimate as lovers and sexual partners. She had noticed that when we had not had sex for a while, that I would become a better lover.

45. It turns us both on. She completely loves being in control of the situation and it turns me on that she is in control.

46. I wear it because I am told to, I am the object of sexual gratification and I cannot be trusted.

47. The wearing of a chastity device has adjusted my attitude, it has encouraged my feelings of submission and it has ensured a growth in the level of her dominance as a result.

48. It has added new facets and dimensions to our relationship. It has allowed me to get closer and more intimate with my wife, and I enjoy the feeling of not being my own person who I can control as I am controlled by another.

49. It is a symbol, expression and physical manifestation of my devotion to my wife.

50. I am constantly horny. A horny slave quickly becomes an obedient slave in the hope of being released.

September 6, 2018March 31, 2020

An Introduction Into Male Chastity

Let’s go through some of the themes surrounding the idea of sexual chastity devices and we will do this through an exploration of male chastity devices. Chastity has become an increasingly popular sexual practice, whereby the sexual power of one individual is placed into another. Chastity results in one member of the relationship holding the power to sexual release and climax, and there are many psychological aspects which are placed onto this sexual practice which we will explore. From there we will look at some of the types of devices, how to pick a device that best suits your needs, and the care and maintenance of both the device and the wearer.

Extended chastity device use poses its own risks and merits and these need to be carefully explored, and you will find medical articles here that not only explain the science of male chastity, but also the potential dangers as well. One of the most common questions when it comes to chastity devices, is what interests people in partaking in chastity practices? Put simply it concerns an exchange of power. Where some BDSM practices result in physical restraints, or psychological restraining through a dominant and submissive relationship – chastity exists through the combination of these, as well as uniquely seeing the restraining of sexual experiences.

Chastity sex toys are thought to have existed for a lot longer than people realize. Like most BDSM practices it was often thought to have originated from Medical and Victorian practices, indeed the idea of chastity was said to have risen to prominence within the 18th Century, though it had been said to have existed for a time before that. Chastity devices are often viewed by the general population as a sexually restrictive device worn by women – this idea stems from social roles of men and women, during an age when women were suffering from oppression. This thought can be witnessed through the Middle Age contextual thought of a lord or knight leaving his woman securely ‘bolted up’ while he went off to have to war, or campaign missions to serve the Aristocracy.

It’s difficult not to think that this might have solved half the problems in Westeros and Game of Thrones, but then we’d be missing some of the more important story lines. Whilst we can’t deny that such gadgets did exist and were probably used, most illustrations and ‘authentic’ period pieces which are to be found in exhibition halls are currently viewed by specialists as fakes – generally made in the nineteenth century to titillate guests. That’s right, current research into chastity devices has thrown concerns and doubts as to when and where the chastity devices actually grew in popularity.

The Secret History Of Chastity:-

The history of chastity is often said to be so secret that no-one actually knew that it existed! The chastity belt has long been associated with women in the Middle Ages to prevent sexual intercourse as a form of enforcing loyalty and preventing infidelity when knights and warriors went off to fight on behalf of the Aristocracy. However, researchers have discovered that there is no evidence of chastity device in verified Medieval texts, a fact which has caused much curiosity and puzzlement among historians and researchers. Therefore, the question becomes, if they didn’t exist in medieval times, where has the chastity belt come from?

Albrecht Classen is a self-proclaimed expert of Chastity devices and has published a book titled ‘The Medieval Chastity Belt: a Myth-making Process'(Palgrave Macmillan, 2007). He has determined in this book that the first mention of the chastity device occurred on a treatise concerning siege machines written by an alleged German Engineer and artist, Konrad Kyese. This document, entitled Bellifortis, is thought to have been written around 1405 and contained detailed images about siege weapons, Alexander the Great, and a variety of mythical and fantastical instruments for torture and war. The thing that concerns Classen however, is that whilst there is an image for a chastity device in this work, there are also a number of crude jokes concerning flatulence, and ‘magical’ devices thought to make people disappear. In other words, not everything in this work is to be taken seriously.

The concept for the chastity belt was added as an afterword in his document, and Classen argues that this had originally been intended as an imaginative joke. The joke however seems to have stuck and continued on as an entertaining and popular subject of humour and satire. Classen goes on to support this by writing in his book that,

“No Author Of Sermon Literature, Of Penitentiary Texts, Or Didactic And Legal Writers Has Ever Mentioned The Chastity Belt Probably Because Already The Basic Idea Behind It Defies The Basic Needs Of The Human (Female) Body.”

In essence, we see Classen arguing that there is a distinct lack of any form of reliable historical reference or evidence that the chastity device was worn as an undergarment, and further, if on the off chance that it was, that there is exceptionally little logic to support their existence. In a world where illness and disease ran rife, the idea that rough, hard and metallic objects could be worn like this without causing illness or infection defies belief. This is an argument that is also supported by historical experts at the Semmelweis Museum, a museum which ran an exhibition of the History of Chastity devices in 2010.

A 16th Century historian and a curator for the Tutbury Castle in Staffordshire England also agrees with Classen. In the British Medical Journal, Lesley Smith wrote an article in 2007 which stated that she has extensively traveled the word and examined a variety of art collections, and historical pieces, and she has yet to have seen a chastity belt that can conclusively be proven to have originated from the Medieval period. Smith also is of the belief that the ‘joke’ stuck, because the concept is understandable given the context of social beliefs concerning sex and sexuality at the time. Medieval Europe was a period in which any form of sexual activity that was not related to conception was a sin and ultimately forbidden. A chastity device fits into this contextual belief which has resulted in historians, researchers and studies concerning the chastity device, to fail to notice the allegorical and satirical humour behind the device, instead resulting in the proclamation that the chastity device was real.

Sarah Bond, an assistant Professor at the University of Iowa, has suggested something slightly different. Whilst she acknowledges that the metallic devices were probably rarely used, or considered jokes by the Victorians, she does suggest that there are social practices which precede the chastity belts as a way of explaining them. Bond explains that Chastity Belts actually originated in Ancient Rome. Brides in Ancient Rome would wear a corded belt to symbolize one’s chastity, and would later be taken off by her husband. As such, the idea that a belt would signify modesty and chastity, was a social practice that continued throughout the Middle Ages, and ultimately might be the reason for the joke.

The once fabric corded belt could have evolved into a belt ornately designed with metal to symbolize chastity and to separate the idea between the working class (fabric belt) and the upper class (metal belt). This belt was worn around the hips, as opposed to around the female genitals. Most of the historians concerning female chastity devices continually refer back to same point; that the idea of a chastity device had intended to be a joke, and a failure to acknowledge this is seen as being consistent with a practice with in which modern historians and researchers partook in to conjure a more ‘barbaric’ version of Medieval society than what had actually existed in truth.

Regardless of whether you subscribe to the idea that chastity devices are a great joke, or whether you believe that they originated from Ancient Roman customs, or even if you believe that they have existed and that historians have attempted to cover up a great sex joke – one cannot deny that they have ultimately morphed into a popular sexual fetish. Though it really wasn’t until the introduction of the world-wide web until these devices became more popular to zest up a sexual relationship.

Even now they can be used in averting masturbation, as well as denying sexual activity to anyone other than the holder of the key to the chastity device – the key holder being the primary person (usually a dominant) who had the key to the chastity toy and could unlock the partner for sexual activity at any point that they chose. Male chastity devices all have two things in common; the first being that they are designed to prevent an erection. They do this by either having a short cage which barely fits a flaccid penis, or (especially useful for those with large flaccid cocks) an angled piece whereby the angle is so sharp that an erection is impossible. Second, they are designed to be locked up by the key holder or their partner in order to prevent tampering.

Male Chastity Devices are designed for people that don’t trust their partner, like a little more control in their relationship such as mistress and slave/master and slave relationships, long distance relationships or for people entering into the world of BDSM.

These days there are so many different styles and variations of styles it is sometimes difficult to be keeping up to date with the latest of chastity toys specifically for men in a wide variety of styles and that will suit your specific needs. If you need a cage that can be easily cleaned whilst still being worn, we can point you in the right direction, if you need a cage that’s a little bit more torturous than most, our friends at the cockringshop will have it. There are also specific cages that can be used with piercings – and they stock those as well. All your chastity toys will come with a unique lock and key and then all you have to do is ensure the safety of that key by putting it in a safe place (many people with chastity devices like to put the key around a necklace chain or an ankle chain so that it is within plain site of their partner but it still can’t be touched. What a tease!

Chastity devices may not be used to enforce fidelity as it was once thought to have done, though we do acknowledge that some people use them this way for that specific purpose, but they are used as a form of exchanging power. Indeed, in a great social back-flip, chastity devices have switched the focus onto being worn by males as opposed to females! So, take a journey of chastity devices, and we promise you, unlike the ones that are in museums – these ones aren’t fake!