Chastity Games To Play!

Solo Chastity Safety Tips:-

Safety within chastity is pretty much the same as with standard chastity play. However, the most difficult thing will be the absence of a key holder. If you choose not to engage with a key holder, (or even if you do) then it’s a good idea to have some backups to avoid temptation. The Key is the most important part of male chastity. It is what will secure your release, and it is what denies you pleasure and freedom. When you’re in a physical relationship with a key-holder, the denial of the key is pretty simple. Your key holder partner will hold the key, hide the key, and use the key as they deem fit. Regardless of your circumstances we still recommend reading this page so that you can find uses and places for the emergency key though! When you’re not in a relationship or you’re not using a key holder, holding the key becomes a little more tricky. It needs to be something that is unusual, or difficult to get to so that you do not succumb to temptation by using your key. To do that you’ll need to make your key as inaccessible as possible. Here are a few ways and ideas that you could use, or that your partner might use.


Finding The Key
Key Play


 – Hiding The Key

in a public place. Ideally, you don’t want to be hiding it in a place that is open 24 hours a day and seven days a week as you’ll be easily able to get your key. Places to consider might be, under the carpet in a library or in a seldom used section, somewhere in a shopping mall, or maybe in your gym locker where there’s not 24 hours access. See, the more restrictive that the hiding places opening hours are, the more difficult it going to make it when you go and try and retrieve it. If you’re using an option like this – you might want to get a back-up key in case your first key is accidentally found.


– Bury The Key

You might want to bury the key at a bus stop near your home, you might want to bury it near a landmark, or you might enjoy bush-walking and you might find a secluded spot in which you can bury it. Alternatively you could bury it near a farm, tree or fence post or pretty much wherever you like. So long as that it takes some distance to travel to. Putting it somewhere in the country can make it difficult especially if your area is prone to bad weather.


– A Glass Bottle

can serve as a key container. Simply plug up the neck with some stuff that can’t be removed, or alternatively melt the neck together after the key has been inserted. You’re basically looking at the idea that the bottle has to be broken in order to get the key out of the bottle. Secondly, the bottle will make for an awesome container if the key needs to be buried somewhere as the glass will not be breaking down anytime soon. (Please don’t put it in a cardboard box)


– Hide The Key At Work

You work there, you know all the little hidey holes where you can keep stuff, and where people aren’t going to look. If you’re putting it in a secure/awkward situation at work not only are you unlikely to take the chastity device off until you get home. Also, unless your workplace is open 24 hours, or you have keys, you’re not going to be able to have access to it all day.


– Bury It In A Friend’s Garden

without their knowledge. Or alternatively, hide it in their house or garage. Not only will you have to endure the torment of going to visit them when you’re caged, but you won’t be in a position to visit and leave straight away, meaning that there’s either going to be some awkward explaining or some enduring that you’ll have to go through.


– Give Your Friends

a spare set of keys with the key on it. This works well if you’re looking at chastity as something long term, as there’s only so many times that you can use the excuse of that you’ve forgotten your keys.

In all of these situations it is best that you keep a secondary back up key just in case. For example, if your friend goes away on holidays without telling you, then you’re certainly going to be in a pickle if you’ve left the key inside their house. Always ensure back up plans, and then make sure that you have back up plans for the back up plans. It might seem like a pain and a hassle but you’re not going to regret it.


Chastity can be difficult when you don’t have a partner to engage with – however just because you don’t have anyone else doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy yourself in chastity. What you’ll find below is a list of games that you can play by yourself in order to secure your own release and satisfaction at times. Basically, it’s a reward based system that you would normally get with a key holder, just in this case you’re rewarding yourself. The thing is, you can still enjoy chastity play even before you get someone else involved, and this might be a precursor to seeing if you actually enjoy chastity play without the embarrassment of having to ask someone else. In solo chastity play – you have to be honest with yourself and you have to be your own key holder, it’s not going to work if you’re not being committed to the type of play. Before you engage in extended periods of being caged, you need to ensure that your brand new chastity cage works, and fits well.

Start off by wearing it for short periods of time, and while carrying the key. If at any stage you feel discomfort, pain or anything like that, immediately remove the device and work out what was causing the discomfort. If it was simply in the wrong position, then re position and put back on. But if the problem is serious, like the ring is too small, or the device is too big, then you’re going to have to discontinue use, and get a new device or parts for the device. You’ll also need to start practicing by sleeping with it to ensure that it’s also a good fit for when you’re asleep. This process might take a few days, or even weeks, until you’re completely comfortable and satisfied with the device and you’re comfortable with leaving the key at home.

Start off with small trips, like a shopping trip, friend for lunch etc. and leaving the key at home. You’ll still have access to it, but just not immediately. In this fashion you can build yourself up to wearing the chastity device full time. Depending on your level of commitment you could start off by mirroring a standard key holder relationship by drawing up a contact, which will establish the length of time that you will remain chaste, establishing a list of punishments and so on and so forth. If you’re only going to do it for a few days, you could consider the idea of mailing the key to yourself, either from a neighboring town or similar. This will let you have a taste of chastity and whether you like it or not.

By constructing a list of punishments you could be holding yourself accountable to the contract as well – when playing solo its really up to you as to how far you want to take it. We have compiled a short list of punishments that you could use – penciling in the appropriate extensions depending on the time that you’re being locked up. If it’s only a couple of days you could extend the punishment by hours or days, it’s not really feasible to extend it by weeks or months. Conversely, if you’re locking yourself up for weeks or months, the punishments shouldn’t be hours or days.

– Suggested Male Chastity Penalties

– Not wearing your cage at all times:

– Touching yourself whilst being caged:

– Attempted masturbation/Masturbation

– Orgasm during the period of being locked:

– Not pleasing someone else to the best of your ability whilst locked:

– Failure to complete chores as per the contract:

Once you have sorted out all of the above, including what to do with back up keys you can start your chastity fantasy by engaging in some games! A good way to create a secure and emergency back up key, is to drop the key into a plastic bottle of water and freeze it. You’ll be limited in your access to your key and the ways in which you can quickly access it. It’ll still be there in an emergency, but it won’t be immediate.

Gym Chastity:-

Going to the gym can be hard. Why not motivate yourself by using chastity as a personal trainer? You could ask a friend to put the key in a locker, and they can give you the combination after you’ve worked out, or simply get them to hold onto a bunch of keys (with the chastity on it) for a short period of time. If you successfully work out, you can have access to the key again. If not. . . you’ll remain locked up.



Chastity Spin:

There are a few websites online which will do something like a chastity spin. You ‘spin’ the wheel and it will give you a task or activity to do. It might add to your time as being chaste, or it might be kind and give you an early freedom. Be careful what you wish for, because this isn’t usually a wheel of kindness.

Spin To Win
Lucky Wheel

The Key Bowl:

For this one you’ll need a bunch of keys, you’ll be better if they are similar keys, you might even find it easier and more convenient to go to the locksmith and buy a bunch of key blanks, or ask them to just do a bunch of random style keys for you. Say it’s a date night and you’re looking for a fun game. You might need to give them a couple of days in order to do this, or buy a bunch of random keys online from ebay. Once you have your keys, put them and the key for the lock in the jar. From here, the choice is yours. You may simply take one key out per day, or for each task/goal that you’ve given yourself you might be rewarded with a key. If you’re really wanting to make this game last as long as possible, return the keys to the bowl at the end of each day/week, or immediately after you discover that it’s the wrong key.


Rolling Dice:

For this you can use as little, or as many dice as you want. Starting off from the lowest number possible on the dice make a list of rewards and punishments that you’re going to give yourself. Keep in mind, that the more dice you use the more difficult it’s going to be and the more punishments and rewards that you’re going to have to right (unless you’re going to do ranges)


The Internet:

People on the internet are very kind and sweet. If you decide to join a chastity forum, you might decide to announce that for every comment that you get on your post, that you’re going to add X amount to your punishment. Or ask for them to make a suggestion of some kind. Prior to the post, pick a number – you have to follow that number posts instructions. Aren’t random people nice?


Make it hard:

Option 1. I’m sure that you have a bunch on anal insertables somewhere in the house (if you don’t go get some – or see option 2). Engage in some delightful anal play for a period of 25 minutes. At the end of this time – simply walk away.

Option 2. Watch your favorite porn for a period of 25 minutes. At the end of the time, walk away.

This one helps if you also do not have access to your back up key for an hour or so. The tease will simply blow your mind.




Swallow it:

This one is certainly not for everyone. Make sure that your key is small enough to swallow without causing any damage. You’ll generally have your key back in 3-5 days. Just in case – make sure you have a backup.

The Kitchen Safe:

This one is not as extreme as swallowing your key. For this one you’ll need to look online. There’s a bunch of lockable cookie jars online, some of them will not even have an override so if its control that you’re after then this is going to be for you. It will force discipline, and you’re going to be in a position that forces you to take the commands of a lifeless being. But hey, that’s chastity! Give someone a spare key, or have a backup just in case.


Play Safe And Have Fun!


10 Commandments For The Chaste Male!

10 Commandments Of Male Chastity For The Chaste Male!!





Your keyholder is your owner and as such they own every part of you and your body and in return you must love and obey them. Your keyholder is entitled to determine which parts of your body are used, and when they are used. With this in mind, your owner has every right to secure your penis in some form of chastity device of both of your choosing. Your owner may lock you up at any time they choose, and for however long they deem in necessary.


Your owner does not need to provide you with any justification or reason in order to secure you in a chastity device. Your only concern is that your owner wants to, and that by itself is reason enough. Whether you want to be secured or not, has no relevance to the situation as per the agreement made in your relationship and Chastity Document.


Under no circumstances (excepting in health and safety emergencies) are you permitted to attempt to remove, alter, or bypass the chastity device with which you have been secured. You, under the terms of the relationship with which you have agreed to, are fully obligated to co-operate with your owner in the fitting of the chastity device and help your owner in the securement of your manhood. You must draw your owners attention to any fault in the device which may impact on its functionality so that your owner can ensure that the device performs as it is intended to perform.


It is your responsibility and duty to keep yourself clean and care for in the area of your manhood so that the wearing of the device is not impeded through health concerns. Following regular cleaning and care, you can continue to be locked up for as long as your owner demands it of you. This is inclusive to the submission of prostate milking so that you can be cleaned internally as well.


You must remember that your owner has locked up your manhood for the precise reason that you can no longer play with yourself or achieve an erection or orgasm. Your manhood is no longer there for your pleasure, but for your owners. Your sole duty is to carry them around for your owner. If erections cause discomfort, then don’t do it.


It is your duty and obligation to inform your owner of your experiences whilst wearing the device. You should regularly look at your chastity cage in order to remind yourself of the pleasures that you once had that were in your control and which are now locked away from you. You should let your owner know how you feel, as they may enjoy hearing about your suffering and longing.




Your owner, in the form of humiliation and subject to your agreement, is entitled to remind you about your inability to obtain an erection, get any form of sexual release. Your owner has taken that away from you and chooses to enjoy that teasing. Your owner can get satisfaction at any time that they want, whereas you cannot. Your owner will find this amusing and want to remind you about this continually.


Dependent on the agreement that you have signed, your secret is not entitled to remain a secret. If your owner chooses to tell people about the chastity device, your owner may do so.


Your owner is allowed to provide stimulation to you in any form that they see fit. This may be include, but not be limited to, exposure to erotic imagery and material, direct physical contact.


It is your duty to take pleasure in the idea that your owner takes time from their day in order to control the use of their property and that this will give them amusement. You should always be thankful for having your owner to secure you in a chastity device and you should always be letting them know how thankful you are for that. You should demonstrate this by being attentive and loyal.

Because of this you should take pleasure in the fact that your owner takes the time to control the use of her property and happy that it gives her some amusement. You should always thank her for securing you in chastity and let her know how grateful you are to have your genitals locked up under her control. You should always be happy if she decides to extend your time in chastity and tell her how much you like to continue being emasculated.

Keyholder Rules
Rules for Keyholders

Four Commandments For The Key Holder:-


A key Holder should not have time to play mind games. The fact that they have a key should be indication that they are in charge.


There is no room for obscure power games, or power plays, or even petty maneuvering, the key holder is the key holder and that is the power that they have and are limited to.


A key holder has not right and is not entitled to resort to any form of abusive behaviour not outlined in the in the agreement of the relationship. They are not entitled to name calling, to put you down, belittle or physically abuse you in any form. There are always hack saws!


The keyholder should remember that if they want something – then they should clearly state their needs and demands. Key Holders should not sulk, they should not confront their chaste male with such phrases as

‘You Should Have Remembered’


‘How Could You Forget’.

There is no room for obscure mind games in chastity.  Gone are the days when chastity and bondage was frowned upon as an alternate lifestyle choice and many partakers now use it as a form of art.

Keyholder FAQ!

Locked Chastity

There is a lot of information about chastity, and some of it can be quite in depth and detailed. If your partner has expressed a desire to wear a chastity device, you might find yourself a little confused. As such, we have compiled a list of FAQ’s with responses specifically geared towards the dominant, key holder, husband/wife whose partner has asked for a chastity cage. This might be a useful page to read before diving into some of the more in depth articles.  It is always great to go to one of the better adult shops where you can gain personal advice.

The idea of being denied sexual delight for the benefit of satisfying you is exceptionally thrilling for your sexual partner. We all have mystery fantasies and dreams and male chastity is only one of those. Since this sexually exciting craving includes the utilization of a chastity cage or belt some of you may find it a bit unusual – and we won’t deny that. However, with time, patience and understanding and a little bit of reading, such as what is found below, you will hopefully find out why it can be arousing, why men like to be held by a chastity device and finally – how it can benefit you and your relationship.


Keyholder Facts
Chastity Keyholder


Why Does He Find Chastity To Be Sexy?

It’s a mystery obsession that your man finds profoundly provocative, exciting and exceptionally attractive, to the point that even only a picture of a chastity gadget could bring about an erection. But why? Why does he feel the need to lock up his dick behind a cage? Many people say it’s about submission. That it is about submitting his control of his own sexual pleasure to another being. It’s also concerned with physical sensations, as well as the psyche, body, emotions and the perception of self. He will understand the idea of chastity to be a yearning, longing or even obsession.

From his point of view the appeal of the sexual fantasy is that his adoring partner (regardless of sex) holds the key to his manhood, and every one of his sexual desires. His cock becomes your own to do with what you will, to satisfy when and however you like, and you can use his sexual energy to placate your own; you say when and how he reaches climax, and you say when and how you reach climax. You control the very essence of his sexual desire and you can twist and manipulate that (within the boundaries of your relationship) to your every whim and desire.

This does not always mean that he will become submissive in the relationship, though we do acknowledge that there are elements of submission and these will manifest themselves in accordance to the boundaries of your relationship. Indeed, I have read and met many heterosexual and homosexual partners where the relationship dominant and submissive roles have not changed because of a cock cage. Indeed, one woman said that;


‘At First I Found It Quite Difficult – Our Marriage Was Certainly Male-Led And I Am By No Means A Dominant Person. However, I Quickly Learned To Use My Femininity To Take Charge Of His Sexual Pleasure. This By No Means Affected Our Primary Relationship, It Was Still A Male Led Marriage And I Was More Than Happy With That Arrangement.’ Edith

As such, you may be dominant in the sexual aspect of the relationship, but you do not necessarily have to be the dominant one overall in the relationship. Wearing a chastity device is not so much about curbing his sexual appetite or excessive masturbation – quite the opposite really. It’s an interesting contradiction. The idea is that a chastity device is meant to limit sexual pleasure in the sense that the sexual pleasure is controlled by someone else. Yet, that idea of having ones sexual pleasure being controlled is arousing to those that want to be caged. What ends up happening is that someone who is wearing a cock cage / chastity device will usually become more aroused than normal by the very nature of wearing a cock cage. In other words, a device that’s supposed to ‘limit’ arousal actually causes the very opposite to occur!

Some people look at it with a profoundly provocative perspective – that the one that who is caged will find his pleasure in satisfying and pleasuring you. At the end of the day a chastity device may cause him to be continually thinking about his key holder’s necessities over his own – whilst you can certainly manipulate the situation into having this occur; his pleasure comes after your own and the sexual release he craves will only occur once you are satisfied – it is important to remember that his caging is also about him. You are not necessarily secondary to that – but his actions, his desires are now as a result of being caged. How you utilize that creative and sexual energy is entirely up to you.

What If I’m Not Interested In Being A Key Holder?

So, if your partner has discovered the strength and courage to let you know that he’s thinking about chastity devices – don’t dismiss him, mock, or put the activity down. Remember, he has just shared something intimate with you and this communication should be encouraged. Something I’ve learned within this industry is

‘Don’t Yuck Someone’s Yum’

Just put it gently aside, say that you need time because you’re a little overwhelmed and then do your own research – make it clear that you’ll come back to him when you’re ready. Even if you are outright against the idea of a chastity cage, do some research anyway. This will indicate that you have given serious consideration to the idea, that you’re acknowledging the importance that it is to him, and will strengthen the relationship regardless.

What’s Special about it?

Chastity between an adoring couples is one of a kind, appealing and stirring. It is an uncommon closeness between you both, which you can keep a secret from the world – when he walks outside it might only be you and he that know he is under a lock and key. The sexual relationship between you both is likely to change as well – that’s not to say it will change completely but it can change in very subtle and profound ways. Taking away his sexual energy and his ability to channel that sexual energy can allow him to refocus that energy to something else. You might find that it is refocused back onto you, or maybe it will be work, family, life or even a combination of them all!



Will I Have Less Sex Now That He’s Caged?


Male Chastity is about you sharing his sexual dream and him satisfying your sexual needs. His chastity obsession is about satisfying you – however you shouldn’t necessarily take advantage of him wearing the chastity device by getting him to do the cleaning up! (Unless that’s the type of relationship you have both agreed on prior). It’s a mutual loving, caring and supportive relationship and not something that should manifest itself into physical, emotional or mental abuse.

Wearing a Chastity Device does not mean your man is sexually deficient. He can be manly, sexually capable, and appreciate wearing a chastity cage and still be virile and constantly horny. You don’t necessarily have to take charge in the bedroom either – you can still get him to make the first move. Chastity is simply about you controlling his sexual energy.   When you are in the mood you can tease him using some sexy lingerie whilst he is still in chastity – what a buzz being so in control can be.

Being a key holder to your caged up man offers a satisfying sexual coexistence, in an often fun, exciting and joyous way. A way where his thoughts and pleasures are centered on you instead of his cock. Keep in mind that a lot of people believe that sexual activity must result in penetrative sex. By taking the penetration out of it (his) you can fundamentally change the sexual nature of your relationship. This implies and will ultimately demonstrate that sexual joys have a great deal less to do with the traditional PiV/PiA dichotomy than people have given attention to.  Sex and sexuality, arguably has more to do with the joys of extensive foreplay, and the exploration of each other’s bodies. By taking away his act of penetration, it will allow the sexual energy to focus more towards these pursuits than anything else.


Should He Be Permitted To Cum?

Yes. How regularly this happens is dependent upon you. He will likely recommend when it ought to be and given his way then this will be all the time but it is important to remember that it is your choice and only your choice as his key holder. Don’t give in to him every time – else he’ll resent the ease of which he can achieve his sexual climax.


How Does Chastity Upgrade My Sexual Joy?

Some people find different things arousing. It’s like watching porn, or using a particular toy – at the end of the day there are, within each of us, certain things which tip us over the edge. I mentioned above that a cage will most likely increase his arousal levels – some couples report that this increased arousal makes him more attentive, more in tune with his partner. This sounds sweet – but don’t expect it. If you go into a chastity relationship with this in mind – you may end up with some very sorry expectations. However, he can learn to put your needs and pleasure over his.

In the majority of sexual cultures – sex is generally considered finished after he climaxes and ejaculates. Does this mean that you have also achieved sexual satisfaction? It can sometimes feel like you’ve been watching an awesome film together and he switches it off just before the good scenes come on.

Chastity shows him to think of you and your climaxes and pleasures. Whilst holding his key you could delicately deny him consent to ejaculate until you yourself have achieved sexual pleasure. You could even make him pleasure you multiple times before he earns his reward. He could be expected to serve his keyholder with his tongue and lips or maybe your most loved dildo, with expertise, dedication and adoration. He will inevitably turn into an exotic, fun loving individual whereby he is continually considering the sexual needs of his partner.



Why Does He Need Me To Hold His Key?

What arouses him is that his penis turns into your property. You control its opportunity. You hold the key. You are his Key holder.  Chastity depends on the excitement of the psyche before the anticipation of his body.  This shows us that the part of the key holder is vital to the chastity relationship. You excite his mind by holding his key which keeps him from touching his penis thus masturbation and sexual pleasure is impossible without your authorization.

When he first hands over his key, some piece of his dream is satisfied, and on the off chance that you agree to be his key holder you could wear the key around your neck – tantalizingly within view but also well beyond his reach. We’d suggest that you examine our Chastity Article about tips, tricks and safety as well. Always check that you have an extra – in the event that something goes wrong!

Male Chastity Loves Adultsmart!

Community Adult Blog

Intimacy is the best place and the best time for expression. Finding a partner with whom be free is the shortest way to self-discovery, and if one is not allowed to express freely with the other, then it means intimacy is not real.

Bondage Sado-masochism (BDSM) sounds like a tabu, like dark practice your ex is probably trying out with his new partner. And it’s not. Just like sex is a regular thing, a regular action upon which so much meaning has been bestowed, BDSM is also a normal thing.

It’s just not that popular as it’s seen as a porno-practice, something for weirdos and sexually curious people. And this is what we’re talking today: BDSM, and with a special emphasis on male chastity, and why The Male Chastity Blog readers should love The Adultsmart Lifestyle Blog.

The AdultsmartLifestyle Blog is a no-BS site where writers are honest, frank, and open about a healthy lifestyle for men. And a healthy lifestyle includes a healthy sexual life and sexual drive. With sex toys.

And the Male Chastity Blog is what you should be reading if you want to finally spice up your nights in bed. Or, you know, in the kitchen, the living room, the car, the sofa, the bath, the woods. Whatever you like.

The slave and the mistress

Chastity play –also referred to as chastity couples- engage in a game where the girl, dressed in sexy leather and high heels, is the mean mistress, while the boy, dress in nothing, is the slave.

The couple makes a silent contract to make their foreplay fantastic: the boy cannot make any move on the girl until she says so. He is a slave, a naughty little slave, and he must obey as she licks her body, rubs her back with her beautiful feet, kisses his lips, and teases Mr. Johnson.

It all grows better –and harder- with a chastity belt: a penis cage that keeps it away from the action. The mistress is free to tease it until it explodes and, as she keeps the key of the chastity belt, she is the one to decide when to set Mr. Jhonson free.

What better toy than a chastity belt, right? It’s just the perfect excuse to get all kinds of jobs. Fantasies fulfilled.

General rules of chastity play
Chastity couples is a way of living that may or may not go beyond the bedroom. Some couples only engage in this in special moments, while others take this as the philosophy of their relationship.

It’s your call. And here it is:

The slave obeys his Mistress until the Mistress says otherwise. In the body, heart, mind, and soul, the slave belongs to her.

The subdued has a safeword from when things get too heavy for him, and he accepts the responsibility of using it when necessary. The Mistress has to respect the use of the safeword, and if the condition arises, the Mistress will determine the appropriate course of action.

The slave’s body is always readily available for the Mistress, and the slave knows that his girl orders how he should use his body with others. So, in case of playing with other people, there are a set of rules the slave must obey to respect his master.

The slave demonstrates his acceptance of his role beyond intimacy moments: as a way of life, his role and service are 24/7 in the places and tasks the Mistress has set for him.

The Mistress may also hurt the slave to please herself without any reason or warning. The slave knows this and acknowledges that Mistress can use his body, mind, hear, and soul in whatever way she seems to like it. However, Mistress has agreed to not hurt the slave in any way that may require attention from a third-party.

The slave can cry, beg, scream, and plea, but he accepts that this painful expression will not change the way Mistress treats him. He also knows there’s a gag around Mistress can use when she gets tired of his disrespect.

The slave will always be honest to his master and will answer any question directly and without hesitation, especially when it’s about his emotional or physical condition. Furthermore, Mistress expects slave will speak his mind about things that bother him, however, this does not mean slave has a permission to whine.

Concerts are to be shared respectfully and politely. Then, Mistress will judge and take the actions she thinks necessary.

The slave will address his Mistress as “Mistress” or “Ma’am” with love and respect. Meanwhile, Mistress might give his slave “free periods” under which he can express freely with no punishments applied. During this free times, the slave will still address Mistress with love and respect.

Public and private rules of conduct

In private, the slave must greet Mistress wearing his collar, wrist restraints, and a shirt that belongs to Mistress. He must not wear underclothes in her presence unless she says otherwise.

As long as Mistress is home, the slave remains whatever she thinks is appropriate for him and wear whatever she decides. And as the slave leaves the room, the must explains his reasons.

In public, the slave can only participate in the activities the Mistress has approved, and act in such a way that doesn’t call the attention of anyone else. He calls Mistress by his name and dress as he likes for public scenarios, but still seek approval of the clothing he wears to go out.

The chastity agreement cannot interfere with anyone’s career. The slave must work honestly and hard for the betterment and honor of both him and his owner.

Married in Chastity
Chastity Couple

A lifestyle for healthy couples

The Chastity Blog and the Adult Lifestyle Blog can get much from each other. A chastity belt is the first step towards chastity play. If you don’t like all of this rules – like, for example, you like being a man and being in charge and not behave like a little B***h – you could choose to engage in this kind of games on special occasions.

For example, who’s to say you and your partner wouldn’t enjoy being Mistress and Slave during your anniversary? Maybe he deserves punishment for such basic gifts or for the time he was mean to your mother.

And with a chastity belt, man, you can sit down and enjoy your girl teasing and edging you until you have accumulated so much drive that you feel ready to break the bed and sleep for two days straight.

Milking The Prostate!

Now that you’ve read up on the potential dangers of long term orgasm denial – lets go through releasing that pressure through prostate milking. We’ve all seen that video in Road Trip with Stifler being milked – all that really is a prostate massage. Prostate milking is very different to an orgasm in the sense that a milking will essentially drain the prostate of seminal fluid without the orgasm. The people who experience it will often colloquially refer to it as a ruined orgasm – it is often deemed as a necessary part of BDSM and prolonged denial of orgasm, however it is generally performed with regards to the prostate health on a chaste submissive male.



We just mentioned that milking is very different to an orgasm, and I’d like to expand on that by being clear. Milking is not an orgasm, nor is it a massage. A massage has the connotation that it is a pleasurable experience, and a massage will often result in an orgasm. Milking is literally the removal of semen from the prostate and can be done without an erection. The fundamental difference to a milking and massage is the way in which the ejaculate comes out of the body. If it squirts, or if it comes out in rhythmic pulses/dribbles then that was an orgasm. If it just dribbles out with no pulses, but just like an overflowing cup then that is considered to be a milking. This is usually anticlimactic, there is no orgasm and it is a very different sensation for a male that has never been milked before. Men can ejaculate with orgasming, however very few men train their body to experience this and as a result, when they undergo a milking, they reach the very precipice of the orgasm, they can feel the ejaculate leaving the body, but there is no orgasm and this is a very strange and unique experience.

A prostate milking is not originally given as a pleasurable experience. It is used to clear out all the seminal fluid that has built up in the male reproductive organs, inclusive of the prostate. Orgasms and ejaculations will normally result in the fluid being flushed out, but if you’re denying a male that opportunity then the fluid will build up. Even if a male is not having regular sex then the body turns in a pressure cooker of sorts, and will naturally release the steam through a nocturnal emission, otherwise known as a wet dream.

Since the body is generally trained to experience these with an erection, then the body may be interrupted during this process through wearing a chastity device. The sudden onset of pain that occurs as the body tries to get an erection may wake the individual and prevent the body from releasing steam. In the event that a male is unable to orgasm, the fluid that is not expelled from the body can become toxic and lead to quite dangerous bacterial infections. There are some studies which suggest irregular or infrequent denial of orgasm can lead to an increased risk of prostate cancer.

So, from there the question becomes just how regularly you should empty the prostate? There’s really no hard and fast rule on this – and if you were to Google it, then you would discover a wide range of different arguments telling you. It really should be up to the submissive. Some recommendations range from once a week, to once a month. We asked a few urologists and they said that there was no hard and fast rule in regards to milking. The general consensus was that if it’s an occasional long term denial of a period of a couple weeks, then that everything should be fine. However, if it was consistently beyond this time frame, then milking is recommended. If he is at any point experiencing pain or inflammation then he should be released immediately, and sent to the doctor or allowed to masturbate or be jerked off, and then put back under. If the inflammation or pain continues, discontinue the use of the device immediately, and send him to the doctor, without fail.

The thing is that if the prostate is inflamed – then milking it will be rather painful and unless this is something you’ve both agreed on, is usually not recommended. Milking is also not recommended on anyone who have prostatitis, or any illnesses which affect the prostate inclusive of bacterial infections. At all stages, orgasm and natural release is preferred. Many men will get off on stimulating the prostate – if that’s the case should prostate milking be considered as a form of reward? No, not in the slightest. Milking can actually have the adverse effect and be purely agonizing and devastating to men.

Proper milking has a very similar feeling to an orgasm, but it is completely devoid of the pleasure and the intensity. You’re literally bringing him up to the precipice of orgasm, and then pushing him in only for him to instantly be at the bottom and bypassing the rush of the fall. Unfortunately, milking does take some of the edge and the energy out of a male subs horniness. Being horny is the bodies way of indicating that the prostate needs to be emptied, through milking you’re emptying the prostate just without the orgasm. As such, a submissive or chaste male will still be hornier than a complete orgasm, but not as horny as he was before the milking. This might make him a little difficult in the time proceeding the milking as we all know that a horny submissive male will be much more susceptible to training and other activities.

Prostate Examination
Prostate Milking



Milking a prostate isn’t always easy and you’ll need to be able to take a while to figure out the best mechanics in order for it to be successful. Even when you are an experienced ‘milker’, it can still take several minutes to perform a milking procedure. For the best results in a prostate milking, make sure that your male has an empty bladder and has had a recent bowel movement. These will help ensure that he is relaxed, and this will ultimately make the entire milking process to be far easier and cleaner experience for you both. Failing this you could always use an enema, though it’s dependent on your preferences. In terms of ‘milking’ there are three ways to go about this process.



This is the easiest way, but it is also kind of cheating. You could simply let your chaste male have an orgasm. It’s entirely up to you as to how you want to set up the frequency of this whether this be weekly, monthly, or bi-monthly. You might be really disappointed and unhappy with allowing him to experience an orgasm, (or he might be as well) but keep in mind that there’s nothing in this first way that prevents you from ruining the orgasm. You can ruin the orgasm by very, very slowly bringing him to the edge and then removing all stimulation. Waiting a few moments, giving a stroke or two and repeating. Very similar to edging, there will come a point where the body can no longer contain itself however it will not receive the orgasmic bliss that is granted through the stimulation. What will happen instead is a rather sad little dribble.

You could also, just before he orgasms, squeeze the base or head of his cock tightly to prevent semen from escaping – this is another way to ruin a guy’s orgasm. The third way to ruin the orgasm is to inflict some form of physical pain as he climaxes. The pain will override the pleasure and instead make the entire situation to be very uncomfortable for him. There are other unorthodox ways to ruin the orgasm including providing distractions in the form of loud noises, photos of family members, or even shocking/scaring the submissive male with a particular action that they don’t enjoy. A ruined orgasm can be hard to achieve, especially if your submissive is not to be trusted, but it heightens the sensation through increasing the amount of frustration that the submissive male will receive.



External milking. External milking involves the stimulation of the prostate through soft stroking of the perineum. The skin between the base of the balls and the ass. This can take a while, but if you do this whilst he is stimulating you, you will find that it goes quicker. Though, you need to be able and aware to understand where he’s at so that you don’t accidentally overdo it and result in an orgasm. This is essentially an external massage of the prostate, because the prostate will be sitting behind this bit in most males (give or take an inch or two). The sensation that this technique gives is a very similar sensation to urinating, except with the knowledge that you’re not urinating and that you can feel your prostate being emptied in a flowing sensation. There’s no pulses and there’s definitely an element of torturous frustration because you know that there’s something missing from the overall sensation.



Internally by hand or by P-Spot toy. There are a lot of toys proclaiming themselves to be prostate massagers out there which will help you in this regard, however, we strongly advise that you do it by your hands first. The reason that prostate toys are so popular is that they’re generally used by a male to reach and stimulate his own prostate as opposed to having someone else guide it in for him. With the toy, he can feel what he is doing, you can’t feel what you’re doing with a toy, so it’s definitely best to use your own fingers to begin with as this is the best way for you to learn exactly what you’re doing. First, trim your nails. Sounds pretty simple, but a lot of people don’t consider it. The end results can be pretty nasty if you do forget, just a heads up. They need to be short so that you do not accidentally tear or scratch anything, as the anal walls can be very delicate. We also suggest that you use gloves, sterile latex gloves will serve you well. Using a water-based or silicone lube (silicone will stay slippery for longer) insert your index or middle finger into his ass.

From here you’ll need to move upwards and deeper, almost as if you were trying to poke his belly button from the inside. You’ll find his prostate in this general vicinity anywhere from 1 to 3 inches. Your feeling for a ball shaped organ roughly the size of a walnut. Keep in mind that you’re not going to be able to hold the ball as the rectal wall will be in the way. If you’re having difficulty finding it, take off your chaste males chastity cage and stroke him to an erection and towards an orgasm. If you’re right near the edge of an orgasm you’ll find that the prostate is very hard to miss as it will have become enlarged through swelling. If you’re in the right spot what you’ll find is it placing pressure on the prostate will make him want to pee.

Once you’ve found the right spot, what you’ll need to be doing is massaging that spot all around the sides. What you’re essentially doing is forcing the semen out, so you need to be able to take your time, but not be too gentle. Do not place too much pressure on the center of the prostate because this in turn could cause damage to the urethra. This process can take a while, so you need to be patient. Even the most experienced ‘milkers’ can take several minutes to achieve milking.

Once you’ve gotten the hang of milking with the finger, you can try using a toy. The reason why we recommend using the finger is so that you get a physical feel as to what it is happening. You could get something simple, or you could get something that has a variety of bells and whistles on it and you might even find that this can speed up the entire process for you. Since your goal with milking isn’t necessarily pleasure, there’s by no means any reason to specifically buying a vibrating one as well. Just in case you’re submissive male has already suggested the use of a vibrating sex toy. Some males will have a refractory period after milking, and this refers to the time that it will take for them to get hard again. Some males will not have a refractory period, and others still will have a refractory period for an orgasm but will not have a refractory period when there is milking. There’s a range of responses when it comes to this so if it’s something that you’re interested in, by all means give it a go and some exploration. Alternatively you can just lock him back up and put him out to pasture for the rest of the day.


The Best Brands:-

There are a few places on the market that will sell male chastity devices. From there it depends on the material and style that you’re after as some of the companies will only specifically make silicone ones, and others will only make steel chastity cages. One of our favorites that create male chastity toys is Hell’s Couture. They are one of the leading manufacturers of BDSM Kink leather and surgical steel adult toys online, and they have years of experience. They have a huge variety of cock cages, chastity devices and accessories and pretty much anything kink related. That’s where we get our stock from, we’ve been enjoying their partnership for years and we wouldn’t recommend anyone else – unless you were after specific and artistic custom jobs.