Adultsmart Interview With Sir James – Cuckolding!

This morning I read an interesting article from one of my favorite adult blogs Adultsmart.  In it a BDSM Master, Sir James, delves into the intricacies of couples cuckolding and as we all know a bit of cuckolding  play is always better when incorporating a bit of chastity games.  It is informative and delves into what it is like being a master at the Fetish House and a broader understanding of the whole set up.  If you are like me and enjoy expanding your knowledge in your Fetlife have a read of the Sir James interview….

SuperSlyde: The holy grail of lubes

We added this review as superslyde is an awesome silicone lubricant to allow the sliding on and off for your treasured chastity devices that will not dry up!

 

Excerpt from malechastitydevices.com.au –

Taking care of your new possession is a simple task. It helps when you get in the mind frame that his penis is pretty much under your control. You have the key to the chastity device and he can’t access his penis for any reason unless you expressly allow it. In the beginning pretty much every single chastity device that your purchase, unless you go all out and get it custom measured and fitted, will provide physical issues. It might not sit right, it might rub things the wrong way, and invariably there will be some issue. It’s a good idea to remove the cage every few days and have a thorough inspection of his genitals. What you’re looking for are sores, redness, chafing or any indication that the device isn’t fitting or sitting properly. If there are any issues, you should consider leaving him unlocked for a period of time until they heal and work out what the issue might be. Chafing can be fixed with lubricant for metal cages, and some talcum powder or similar for a silicone cage. If it’s obvious that it’s just not fitting right, and it’s not going to fit right – then you should consider ordering a different chastity device, or sending the one that you have back for an adjustment – however this is dependent on the regulations of the place that you bought it from and whether it’s a custom fit or can have aftermarket attachments placed onto it. This is a very normal part of the easing into it process. Once things are fitting right, and you aren’t having any problems, you can begin to ease up on the inspections. He’ll also need to be unlocked for inspections and cleaning less often. Just because he is unlocked does not mean that he will automatically get an orgasm, and this is something that needs to be made perfectly clear to him. Otherwise what will happen is that his body will be trained into expecting an orgasm every single time that the cage is unlocked – and this is really not a very good position to be in especially when the fantasy revolves around the idea of teasing and denial.

As you can imagine there are so many various types of lubricants on the market. Here at OhZone we get to play with them all! The longer I am here the better I am at identifying them when customers have some in their hands without seeing the label. Not all products are created equal and most of the time, you’ll pay for what you get. Cheap lubes require more lube, feel tacky and ultimately can ruin a great sexual encounter. Remember lubricant is the foundation of great sex and you should read this review before buying cheap lube from the local supermarket again. That’s not saying I am a lube snob, I have also been guilty of buying cheap tacky lubes. I get it, you’re in a hurry and the local shops only stock crap lube – trust me we’ve all done it.

 

However, I’ve been working on this blog for a while and I can honestly say that SuperSlyde out performs all other lubricants on the market. I have spent my time in store apply lube to my hands to test smell, consistency and silkiness. This was a messy job, but I did it for you, the loyal readers!

 

Why SuperSlyde is superior!

 

After two years of research and development; SuperSlyde boast that their silicone lubricant will undergo various processes in order to achieve the correct texture, viscosity, texture, silkiness and slipperiness of the product. They have done all sorts of scientific testing to create the most perfect silicone lubricant for you. Not only is it the most perfect consistency it is created under strict manufacturing procedures to ensure that your product is not only of the highest standard in hygiene but also the best lube on the market. SuperSlyde is made in Singapore using only premium pharmaceutical grade silicone ingredients and manufactured under strict pharmaceutical certified GMP conditions using a tightly controlled manufacturing process to ensure the best quality product.

 

It’s an award winner!

 

SuperSlyde was the winner of the best lubricant at Australia’s Eros Shine in 2013. This lube is award winning, latex safe, hypoallergenic and suitable for those with the most sensitive of skin. SuperSlyde has no scent and best it’s so soft on the skin, I’ve known some of our staff members to use it as a moisturiser or hand cream!

 

Listen to me, your local sexpert.

 

I’ve never been a huge lubricant fan as I’ve always found it’s consistency disgusting. So, you can imagine my horror when I was handed a bottle on one of my very first shifts here at OhZone. If anything, my experience with SuperSlyde has made me more open to try new lubricants. I use my SuperSlyde often and I still have more than half of the bottle – the stuff lasts forever! I was surprised as the texture it was soft, silky and it never wears down or goes tacky. The smallest amount will go so far and really improves sexual intercourse.

 

SuperSlyde into anal.

 

I’d recommend this lubricant particularly if you’re wanting a long-lasting silicone lubricant for anal sex. During sex you never have to stop to top up, the only thing that wears it down is when you get in the shower to wash it off with soap. I have been so impressed with this lubricant and the more customers that try often come back and tell me the same thing. This is the BEST lubricant on the market; I recommend this to couples wanting to try anal sex for the first time. I personally wouldn’t recommend any other product for anal sex ever again.

 

Great for sex – bad for your toys!

The only downfall is that because this lubricant is silicone based you will never be able to use it on your toys. Why? Great question! The reason for that being silicone bonds to silicone. When this happens, the silicone lube turns your expensive silicone toys into a sticky, ruined mess. Although it has been generally thought that medical-grade silicone toys and silicone lube will not result in a reaction, there are just too many toys and lubes for us to test. Better to be safe than sorry, from everyone at the Adult lifestyle centre’s we recommend using water-based lubricants with your toys.

In conclusion…

If I could get all my customers to buy a bottle, I swear they would never buy another brand ever again. Some customers who I have convinced to try it come back and tell me how much they loved it. I promise you all, it is worth every cent. SuperSlyde is liquid gold so much so that its customer base ranges from: working girls to gay men to average couples. This lubricant deserves to be in every household in Australia. Honestly, do yourself a favour try some and have the best sex of your life! You will never buy cheap lube from the local supermarket again.

Buy Silicone Chastity Lubricant

Sado’s Chamber – Cock and Ball Chastity Fun

Master series Sado’s chamber silicone male chastity device

 

Does the thought of submission tickle your fancy?

Does giving somebody control arouse you?

DO THE WORDS…

CBT – CUCKOLDING – KEY-HOLDING – TEASE & DENIAL

LIFT THE HAIRS ON THE BACK OF YOUR NECK?

 

I highly recommend addomt he SADO’S CHAMBER CHASTITY DEVICE to your bag of goodies

 

 Purpose of a chastity device

 

The application of a chastity belt is an indication of the control/dominance of the “key-holder” over the wearer’s sexual activities. By wearing the chastity belt the submissive/slave accepts surrender of control over their sexual desires to the other partner, who may grant permission to the wearer to engage in sexual activity by unlocking the chastity device. The dominant may decide when, where, how often, and even if, the submissive is allowed their sexual release. This is a great element of control in a power exchange, as the controlling of ones sexual arousal, release and even orgasms can be both empowering and a lot of fun for each of the people involved.

 

The wearer of the belt or chastity is known as the sub/slave in a BDSM relationship. This is a part of the wider practice of tease & denial, some people claim it increases submissiveness in their men, other people claim it gets males to be more in tune with their emotions, feelings and state of mind. It has often been reported that when worn, the chastity belt frequently reminds the slave of the sexual frustration they could experience. There’s actually scientific research that’s been placed in this with the effects that an orgasm has on the chemical balance of an individual and how that can in turn affect their personality, and their day to day goings.

Most belt designs cannot prevent wearers from physically touching their genitals but they do usually prevent masturbation. Although devices may hold the penis firm, they can  be loose and, even though sex is impossible, it is possible for manual stimulation even to orgasm however often resulting in a ruined orgasm. The most effective masturbation prevention requires design features that incorporate piercings or a completely enclosed chastity device

 

 

 SET INCLUDES

 

– 1 silicone cage/tube

– 3 graduated size silicone back rings

– 2 plastic cinch straps

– 5 individually numbered plastic seal locks

– 1 padlock with 2 keys

 

Ring measurements are:

– 2” diameter (52mm)

– 1.75” diameter (47mm)

– 1.5” diameter (41mm)

 

How to apply your brand new chastity device

Please ensure you set up your device correctly, a poorly set up chastity device could result in a serious injury

At first look whilst still in the box my thoughts were it was going to be an easy application with the device but once I took everything out of the box there were heaps of parts and I was a little confused on how to set it up. All you need is; your shaft tube  – ring – cinch strap with white clip – and padlock/numbered plastic lock.

 

multi part chastity cage in silicone
Silicone CBT Chamber Unboxed

Step 1

Apply a small amount of water based lubricant onto yourself or to the device whichever is preferred to create easy application due too the product being completely silicone I recommend a trim/shave to help lower the risk of pinching whilst using the device , then grab the ring with your preferred measurement around your genital area then take out the small white clip for the lock seal onto

Step 2

Grab 1 of the 2 Cinch straps and push the white clip through one of the end holes and begin to thread the cinch strap through 1 of the top slots of the chastity tube and begin to wrap around the  back ring  whilst heading through the remaining 2 slots after you have reached the full way around back to the other side attach the cinch strap to the white clip again.

Step 3

Get out the padlock or numbered plastic locks and lock it up! 😏

The Sado’s chamber would have to be one of the most comfortable chastity devises I have worn and would definitely have to be the most comfortable I have been able to sleep in with no metal spikes or pieces to give pinching. It’s great for comfort whilst knowing you are still securely locked up.

With great size ventilation holes perfect for cleaning without removal this chamber is designed perfectly with a soft silky silicone for movement & comfort in favour of the slave/sub with no pins or sharp edges for any unwanted pinching.

 

Master Series

What Is A Chastity Device?

antique chastity

When it comes to chastity, most people assume that it is a female chastity device with which we are talking about. In part, this stems down from a patriarchal belief with the loyalty that women are supposed to hold when it comes to their relationships, thereby freeing men so that they could sow their seed. In reality though, many more men partake in chastity than women, and it’s an interesting fetish which has become increasingly popular in the world of relationships, sex and sexual gratification.

 

Put simply, a chastity device is a form of control of the wearers sexual behavior, a device which physically inhibits the wearer from any form of stimulation, intercourse or masturbation. Cages come in a variety of different shapes, styles, materials, and even colors, yet they all have a singular purpose; orgasm denial. You might think about why one would want to deny an orgasm, but it is a multi-faceted fantasy that is very difficult to pin down. Being in a chastity device is different for different people, there are a variety of reasons out there as to why one would want to have their orgasms and sexual gratification being denied – but at its core, it relies on a power exchange and, physically and mentally, handing control of one’s own sexual release to that of someone else.

It’s a unique fetish in the sense that the sexual gratification stems from the denial of sexual gratification. How does this even make sense? If you’ve studied other fetishes, or even if you’re familiar with other fetishes, what you’ll find is that sexual gratification does not always have to be about the stimulation of the body, or indeed orgasms. Sexual gratification, or erotic pleasure may be derived from the stimulation of another person, or by being punished, humiliated or something of the like. Usually in these situations the erotic turn-on stems from a mental and psychological perspective, however it can be closely linked with physical factors as well, which include pain and torture.

The point of orgasm control/denial is that it is responsible for an exceptionally long period of foreplay of which the exchange of power is central. The dominant partner, sometimes referred to as the key holder, may simply hold out sexual release until they want it, or they may get the submissive male to partake in a variety of activities and services with which to build favor and potentially secure sexual release. It could also incorporate edging whereby the dominant partner may, at their choosing, bring their submissive partner close to climax before locking them away to serve as some form of punishment. There are a variety of different relationships between a submissive and their keyholder. What is essential, however, is the exchange of power – and like all forms of BDSM relationships this manifests into both a physical and mental pleasure. People who have been restrained speak often about the need to serve, the denial of sexual release means that they are often reduced to a state of serving, or neediness on their partner, and in turn their partner derives pleasure from this constant psychological state of submissiveness.

 

 

Male chastity is often thought to be a confusing world because it’s not something that’s often spoken about or even exposed, unless you’re specifically looking for it. This is partly due to the idea, that there is a huge psychological component to chastity that a lot of people simply do not understand. We live in a world of instant gratification, and with the rise of dating apps and apps which can provide access to instant sexual partners, the idea and understanding of sexual release is skewed. We no longer have to wait for

‘Someone Special’

in order to have sexual gratification, and sometimes, for those willing, its far easier to load up an app and get someone over than it is to masturbate. The idea of sex and sexuality is not something which can be confined to physical release and orgasms, sex and sexuality has become much more than that. This is especially the case in a sex positive environment, which provides individuals the freedom to enjoy all forms of sex so long as it is explicitly consensual. Take someone who has had an accident or has had prostate surgery and no longer has functional use of his penis; he can still be sexually stimulated mentally and derive pleasure from that stimulation even with the absence of an orgasm. We all know that one man in our social group that is driven by his sexual needs, and whose focus is on sexual gratification and pleasure. Imagine the idea that he is placed in a position where he has been denied the ability to touch or pleasure himself, could he not then be in a position where he can refocus that energy into other pursuits.

When a guy is caged up he is fully aware that he is unable to bring himself to sexual climax leaving him free to redirect and refocus his sexual energy onto other aspects of this life which he is still in control of. The period of chastity can vary, with some men being restricted for a few days, weeks, months or even years without a guarantee of sexual release. Despite the common belief that a man in chastity can never have any sexual release, the body is still sometimes able to obtain sexual release either mentally, or as nocturnal emissions. To completely deny the release of semen or bodily fluids for any period of time can be damaging on their health – this in turn can force the body to adjust, and ultimately cope in different ways.

 

man in a cage
caged man

 

 

Why Men Want To Be Caged?

A male may want to be caged because he wants his key holder to take sexual initiative within the relationship. By caging the penis, he no longer has control of sexual initiation as it has been transferred to someone else. Surrendering control, or having someone else in control is one of the more common reasons for enforcing a life of chastity. Although the control physically extends to the control of the penis – there is more to it than this. Control will eventually and inevitably spread beyond this, and this might be the type of lifestyle which he is seeking. Whilst it is an underlying and motivating force, it is not always the primary reason.

Enforced chastity allows him to dedicate his loyalty to his key holder and addresses his concerns of trust from his partner to him. He might have already been feeling temptation, or it might be brought up as a result of guilt from a previous situation, or it could be a motivation for him to seek punishment from something real or something he has imagined. Some people seek to have forms of punishment given to them for various ‘indiscretions’ regardless of their validity – this is especially common in religious circles in the form of self- flagellation. If it stems from a place of guilt, then the couple need to have a serious talk regarding the origins of this guilt before engaging in chastity play as it has the potential to become more legitimately cruel than what it should be.

In each of these situations there is a psychological need in being caged, and the fulfillment of that need is part of the sexual fantasy. Fulfillment in this fantasy is not just about physical denial of sexual gratification. It becomes a mindful state which can alter the behaviour of the caged individual both in regards to his relationship or overall life. We have just briefly discussed how this might be able to affect his life in terms of allowing him to refocus his energy on other aspects of life. But there are also many benefits to the relationship as well, by removing the control of sexual gratification he in turn can refocus his sexual desires and pleasures on his ability to serve his key-holder. This might manifest itself into a more intimate and positive relationship.

When it comes to sex and sexual pleasure, societal expectations often dictate that sex is purely about penetrative sex. When that component is taken out of the equation it can result in a more emotionally fulfilling relationship which sees a focus on the needs and desires of the key-holder as opposed to the needs and desires of the caged individual. Indeed, there are many stories out there how caging up their partner has resulted in their partner being more ‘devoted’ to them; actively seeking to fulfill their needs, desires and every whim. In some cases, this does have an ulterior motive, that being the promise of sexual release and tension, however this is not always the case. The individual may simply be feeling the need to redirect their sexual desire and energy into providing their partner with more emotional fulfillment. Often, key-holders will report such things as their partner being more understanding, more attentive and even more devoted to them and the family.

As you can see, there are a number of different factors within the fetish of male chastity and cock cages. Hopefully by this stage you’ll also have gathered that it isn’t some variant of severe trust issues, or forced abstinence, though in some cases this remains accurate.

Materials Made To Make Chastity Devices!

There is a myriad of different chastity style devices on the market, and since everyone has differing shapes, sizes and comfort levels it is important to give careful considering to any form of chastity device before purchasing. Here we will go through differing chastity devices, pros and cons, and the differences in materials. If you’re unsure about chastity devices, if you’re considering chastity toys and not sure where to start, hopefully by the conclusion of this article you’ll be better placed and more informed in terms of making a decision.

A male chastity device is a device that restricts the wearers ability to get an erection. There are many variants of this device; some will be cages, others will be bent at acute angles, but their purpose remains the same – preventing erections. The prevention of erections means that stimulation of the penis is not accessible, and therefore a man is unlikely to achieve sexual release.

We do hate to blow the secret here, but there are multiple ways in which a male could obtain sexual release, and even climax, despite being subjected to chastity. He could engage in prostate stimulation, or the body will provide nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) to prevent the build of semen and fluid – however in either situation he may be subjected to pain and torment through his inability to obtain an erection through the device. Not all devices are the same, nor should they be considered the same despite them all having the same fundamental purpose of orgasm denial. We’ll begin by exploring some of the materials and the advantages and disadvantages of these materials.

 

 

 

 

Leather Chastity Cages:-

 

Most people don’t think of leather when it comes to chastity cages, however, leather is the most accessible of cock cages and some of the easiest and most comfortable to use. Leather chastity cages are considered to be entry level cages as they are both lightweight, and durable, and if something goes wrong then they can be removed during an emergency. Leather chastity cages are not always completely made of leather. What they might use, is a leather cock ring, some leather straps to hold it in place, and then a small steel cage either along the shaft, or at the end of the shaft to prevent erections.

Leather cockrings still leave the penis open to access, and stimulation but they will prevent erections. One of the most common types of leather chastity cage are similar to the Stallion Guard. In this the leather cock cage, will restrain the penis by having leather wrap around the base and the balls to hold it in place, but prevent erections through a locking steel cage that is placed over the end of the shaft, and over the head of the penis. The cage, is very simple, very open and will create pressure on a semi-erect cock thereby restricting one’s ability to obtain a full erection.

Male leather chastity may also come in the form of a belt, which can utilize both a cock cage, and an ass plug which can also be locked in. Whilst leather cages can be used for extended periods of time, we would like to remind people that leather is a porous material and can be difficult to clean. If you’re looking at a leather cock cage please see our cleaning and hygiene section to ensure that you’re prolonging the life of this particular type of cock cage to the best of its ability. We do not want to see you with something that’s going to conk out at an inopportune moment and accidentally release your sub! Take further care for regular inspections of leather devices so that they can be replaced before they break out. Leather cock cages will have a little bit of stretch in them and are particularly useful for people that do not like the idea of steel rings around the base of the penis.

 

Silicone Cock Cages:-

 

Silicone was brought out to fill in the disadvantages of leather, whilst still maintaining all the original advantages. Silicone is durable, forgiving and has a slight amount of flex to it. Silicone chastity devices were first brought out in 2009 by Swiss company Bird locked, and since then there have been several variations of the silicone cage. The advantages of the silicone cage is that it is soft and flexible, it will warm quickly to body temperature. Further, owing to the notion that silicone is non-porous it’s not going to absorb any bacteria.

When silicone cages first came out it was hoped that they would be penned as the ultimate in chastity devices and in many cases they are; soft, flexible, conforming and incredibly durable. They come in two variants which sees one type as a solid piece, and the second type with a removable back ring. Silicone is lighter even then their plastic variants, however it should be noted that silicone can be grippy and can cause irritation if the device is too tight, but this can be combated with a light coating of talc powder. In an emergency, silicone rings can be cut with a pair of scissors. Silicone can also be purchased in a variety of unique and fun colors, if you wanted something that was a little more fun and exciting than other designs.

Many chastity devices now come with penis plugs for extra sensations or drain tubes/pee through for long time wear.

 

Steel Cock Cages:-

 

Steel is what you think of when you turn your attention to cock cages. Steel is an extremely durable material and probably one of the most difficult to get out. Indeed, there are even steel devices which have their locks hidden to prevent them from being bolt cutter opened! There are differing types of steel though, and it is important to note that not all steel cages are the same. You will find that some steel cages are made from medical grade surgical steel, whereas others will simply use a chrome coating which will degrade over time.

It is important that you research exactly what you’re buying so that you don’t get caught out! There are a wide variety of steel cock cages – some of them will be an actual cage, where others be an acutely angled elongated tube in order to prevent erections. With such a wide variety of steel ones out there, it is important to make sure that you’re getting one that truly stands out and fits your needs. Steel can be a beautiful material to work with, fully customizable, and the end results can be simply stunning. Still will be cold to the touch, it’s not a forgiving material and you will need to pay careful attention to the size to ensure that you’re not causing any harm.

Cock Cages with penis plugs are becoming more and more popular as a result of the extra sensations that they can give.  Often a keyholder will demand that her man in chastity masturbate when released with the plug still inserted in the urethra that will give an orgasm often described as

silicone and chastity
silicons chastity device

‘Cumming Inside Out’

The materials of cock cages can vary, and each have their own advantages and disadvantages. For example, metal cock cages are the most durable, and the most difficult to get out, but they are considered to be the heaviest so if you’re looking for something that will accommodate an active lifestyle then this is probably not going to be the one for you. If you have an active lifestyle, engage in sports, or even wear tighter pants and want something to be more discreet then perhaps you should consider the silicone cages as these will best fit what you’re after. The selection of a cock cage is an important decision to make, more often than not you’re going to make a few mistakes with them. Have patience and eventually you’ll be able to find the perfect cock cage that best fits you and your lifestyle.