Recently we came across a great interview with a family man. Happily married with children but totally into the Chaste Lifestyle. He really enjoys being a male in chastity and one of his other loves is cycling. He decided to start a blog that would be part of his ‘lifestyle diary’ even putting a calendar on the days his keyholder would release him.
Taking care of your new possession is a simple task. It helps when you get in the mind frame that his penis is pretty much under your control. You have the key to the chastity device and he can’t access his penis for any reason unless you expressly allow it. In the beginning pretty much every single chastity device that your purchase, unless you go all out and get it custom measured and fitted, will provide physical issues. It might not sit right, it might rub things the wrong way, and invariably there will be some issue. It’s a good idea to remove the cage every few days and have a thorough inspection of his genitals. What you’re looking for are sores, redness, chafing or any indication that the device isn’t fitting or sitting properly. If there are any issues, you should consider leaving him unlocked for a period of time until they heal and work out what the issue might be. Chafing can be fixed with lubricant for metal cages, and some talcum powder or similar for a silicone cage. If it’s obvious that it’s just not fitting right, and it’s not going to fit right – then you should consider ordering a different chastity device, or sending the one that you have back for an adjustment – however this is dependent on the regulations of the place that you bought it from and whether it’s a custom fit or can have aftermarket attachments placed onto it. This is a very normal part of the easing into it process. Once things are fitting right, and you aren’t having any problems, you can begin to ease up on the inspections. He’ll also need to be unlocked for inspections and cleaning less often. Just because he is unlocked does not mean that he will automatically get an orgasm, and this is something that needs to be made perfectly clear to him. Otherwise what will happen is that his body will be trained into expecting an orgasm every single time that the cage is unlocked – and this is really not a very good position to be in especially when the fantasy revolves around the idea of teasing and denial.
As you can imagine there are so many various types of lubricants on the market. Here at OhZone we get to play with them all! The longer I am here the better I am at identifying them when customers have some in their hands without seeing the label. Not all products are created equal and most of the time, you’ll pay for what you get. Cheap lubes require more lube, feel tacky and ultimately can ruin a great sexual encounter. Remember lubricant is the foundation of great sex and you should read this review before buying cheap lube from the local supermarket again. That’s not saying I am a lube snob, I have also been guilty of buying cheap tacky lubes. I get it, you’re in a hurry and the local shops only stock crap lube – trust me we’ve all done it.
However, I’ve been working on this blog for a while and I can honestly say that SuperSlyde out performs all other lubricants on the market. I have spent my time in store apply lube to my hands to test smell, consistency and silkiness. This was a messy job, but I did it for you, the loyal readers!
Why SuperSlyde is superior!
After two years of research and development; SuperSlyde boast that their silicone lubricant will undergo various processes in order to achieve the correct texture, viscosity, texture, silkiness and slipperiness of the product. They have done all sorts of scientific testing to create the most perfect silicone lubricant for you. Not only is it the most perfect consistency it is created under strict manufacturing procedures to ensure that your product is not only of the highest standard in hygiene but also the best lube on the market. SuperSlyde is made in Singapore using only premium pharmaceutical grade silicone ingredients and manufactured under strict pharmaceutical certified GMP conditions using a tightly controlled manufacturing process to ensure the best quality product.
It’s an award winner!
SuperSlyde was the winner of the best lubricant at Australia’s Eros Shine in 2013. This lube is award winning, latex safe, hypoallergenic and suitable for those with the most sensitive of skin. SuperSlyde has no scent and best it’s so soft on the skin, I’ve known some of our staff members to use it as a moisturiser or hand cream!
Listen to me, your local sexpert.
I’ve never been a huge lubricant fan as I’ve always found it’s consistency disgusting. So, you can imagine my horror when I was handed a bottle on one of my very first shifts here at OhZone. If anything, my experience with SuperSlyde has made me more open to try new lubricants. I use my SuperSlyde often and I still have more than half of the bottle – the stuff lasts forever! I was surprised as the texture it was soft, silky and it never wears down or goes tacky. The smallest amount will go so far and really improves sexual intercourse.
SuperSlyde into anal.
I’d recommend this lubricant particularly if you’re wanting a long-lasting silicone lubricant for anal sex. During sex you never have to stop to top up, the only thing that wears it down is when you get in the shower to wash it off with soap. I have been so impressed with this lubricant and the more customers that try often come back and tell me the same thing. This is the BEST lubricant on the market; I recommend this to couples wanting to try anal sex for the first time. I personally wouldn’t recommend any other product for anal sex ever again.
Great for sex – bad for your toys!
The only downfall is that because this lubricant is silicone based you will never be able to use it on your toys. Why? Great question! The reason for that being silicone bonds to silicone. When this happens, the silicone lube turns your expensive silicone toys into a sticky, ruined mess. Although it has been generally thought that medical-grade silicone toys and silicone lube will not result in a reaction, there are just too many toys and lubes for us to test. Better to be safe than sorry, from everyone at the Adult lifestyle centre’s we recommend using water-based lubricants with your toys.
If I could get all my customers to buy a bottle, I swear they would never buy another brand ever again. Some customers who I have convinced to try it come back and tell me how much they loved it. I promise you all, it is worth every cent. SuperSlyde is liquid gold so much so that its customer base ranges from: working girls to gay men to average couples. This lubricant deserves to be in every household in Australia. Honestly, do yourself a favour try some and have the best sex of your life! You will never buy cheap lube from the local supermarket again.
One of the most important things to remember is that you should treat your chastity device like clothing. Clothing should be washed at the end of each day, and not be re-worn for multiple days at a time. If you’re wearing something for multiple days at a time it can accumulate sweat, bodily fluids, dust particles and dead skin, all of which can contribute to a rather nasty kind of odor which is bound to follow you around all day. One of the best tips to help keep you and your chastity toy pleasant, clean and new is to give it a wash at the end of every day with a lot of foamy and soapy water. This should be a part of your daily cleaning schedule, so you’ll want to be able to devote a little extra time to your routine in order to be able to provide the cleaning that will not only protect you, but also the toy.
If you fail to regularly clean your chastity cage, and clean it properly, you’ll find very quickly that bacteria can build up. A chastity cage is a warm area, and it can often be a damp area as well, meaning that it is the perfect breeding ground for bacteria which can potentially lead to rashes, skin infections and other nasty consequences. When we say that you need to clean your cock cage, this doesn’t mean you have to take off the cock cage all the time, so try not to get too excited at the prospect of freedom, Realistically, if you were in a position to take it off every day, then there’d really be no point in wearing it – the temptation to pleasure yourself would be too much and defeat the purpose of chastity. But, with a little ingenuity and a lot of cotton buds to access those hard to reach areas you can effectively clean out your device without having to take it off. This will remove any unwanted germs, and body fluids that have accumulated from daily use and also help to eliminate any odors.
When completing your daily routine, you’ll need some cotton buds and some anti-bacterial soap. What you’ll need to do is to apply the anti-bacterial soap, ensuring that there’s lots of suds, and give just a general wash to begin with. After this, and after you have rinsed the suds off, grab a few cotton buds and either reapply the anti-bacterial soap, or roll the cotton bud in the soap (it’ll help if it is a liquid soap here). Inserting the cotton bud and gently start washing and scrubbing the skin which is behind the cage, ensuring that you’re rubbing the cotton bud against the inside of the cage as well. You’ll need to do this slowly and ensure that it’s done properly, if it starts to sud up and you can’t see, just give a rinse and start again.
Make sure that you’re giving your complete attention to the entirety of the penis and the cage, from the very base to the very tip. This includes grabbing a cotton bud and ensuring that the shaft underneath the cock ring is squeaky clean. If you’re uncircumcised, make sure that you pull back the skin (if you have difficulty use some cotton buds) and ensure that the head is cleaned as well. A lot of men also use high pressure hoses with thin nozzles to achieve a thorough clean – either with a water bottle or with a specialized shower head. If you take care of your cock in the cage, you won’t have to take it off as often for a more specialized clean – which can be a pain as you’ll obviously need to be supervised with the cock cage off!
After washing in this way, you’ll need to pat yourself down with a towel and you may need to use some more cotton buds to get rid of any excess moisture. It is very important to remove moisture, remember how we said that bacteria love warm and damp places, if you’re not removing all the moisture you’ll find that it can cause some skin issues if you don’t take care of it. Some men have reported excellent results with a hair dryer – use it only on the lowest setting as you don’t want to dry out the skin in the device as this can also cause rashes, sore and chafing. Also, this might sound obvious, but if it’s getting too hot, remove the heat. Heat will make you sweat, and sweat will make it damp and then you’ll be right back to square one!
Now, it doesn’t matter how thorough you are with your daily cleaning schedule, we advise that you take off your device on a weekly basis for a deep and thorough clean of everything. If you’ve been using your cock cage for an extended period of time, and you’re feeling that you can go for longer, you can try it and see how it goes but at the first sign of any rashes, itchiness, or unpleasant odors then you will need to take it off. No excuses. Perhaps, you could try extending it by a couple of days at a time. On the first day take it off for cleaning, then go two days an take it off on the third – stick to that routine for a few times then add an extra day. This will allow you to ensure that you’re going okay without going straight off the deep end.
What you need to be doing each time you take the CBT device off immediately inspect for parts that you missed when cleaning so that you know what to focus on when you’re cleaning when caged. Some people find that they suffer from a bit of guilt and shame when they ask to have their cage taken off their device as they feel that they aren’t being true to the life of chastity. No. There is absolutely no shame, embarrassment, or even guilt that should be felt if you are asking for release from the cock cage for hygienic reasons. The thing is, even though you are being in a submissive role, your keyholder should never deny you your fundamental rights to hygiene. It benefits them as well after all!
We still recommend that you take it off weekly though. To do this, you will need to be under supervision. Your keyholder may be there to shower with you, or watch, or they may request that the door be left open and they will randomly walk in to check on you, whereby if they find you in any position which compromises the life of chastity, then you will be punished. The weekly deep and thorough clean serves several purposes. Firstly, it will help you clean any bits that you might have neglected, or couldn’t reach during your daily clean, this includes the skin, and the inside and outside of your chastity device. Secondly, you’ll be able to inspect your penis to ensure that the strain of the penis cage isn’t causing any irritation, any stress to the penis, or causing any scratches, marks or damage to your genitals.
Make a thorough inspection, from the base of the shaft, to the balls, and all along the shaft. Get your key holder to inspect the underside for you, or you might need to get a mirror to avoid any of that temptation (or they might have the intention of teasing you). If you have any cuts, abrasions, marks that should not be there, you should stop using the chastity cage immediately until the skin has healed. You might want to try some skin ointment, healer or softener at this stage to ensure that everything is staying slick and smooth. However, you will need to be able to have the opportunity to massage it in completely, else you’re going to have oily skin patches which is not going to do anyone any favors, which might even transfer onto the chastity cage and damage it depending on the material. So, if you’re going to do something like this, then you’ll need to ensure that you’re paying close attention and that you’re ensuring that the removal of all substances before putting it back on. Make sure you scrub everything, and we mean, everything. Front, back and all the sides. You need to remove all the dead skin cells and bacteria that could have been hiding during your regular daily cleaning.
Whilst you’re uncaged and unshackled, ask your keyholder if they will let you shave. Whilst you’re unshackled is the best time to shave as you’ll find it so much easier than trying to navigate around the device. Though we do recommend trimming as opposed to completely shaving as the itching and reactions that occur as a result of the hair growing back might be exceptionally bothersome when wearing the device. Once you have cleaned both the device, and your genitals you’ll need to make sure everything is dry, completely dry. Once everything is completely dry, spray on some anti-bacterial spray and a good quality one at that. Such cleaners have antimicrobial activity to battle micro-organisms, infections and growth develop, and a decent disinfectant will make all the difference. Trust me on this one! Wipe it clean again and pop it back on.
Specialty Cleaning For Leather Cock Cages:-
We need to add a separate section for Cleaning leather cock cages because leather is quite porous and cleaning it, as well as looking after it, is quite different to metal, silicone and plastic cock cages. It goes without saying that it is recommended that cages should not be shared between people (realistically, what’s the point), but leather toys should never be shared by people under any circumstances. Leather cages will need extra special care and attention for cleaning, and you will need to be able to dedicate the appropriate amount of time to their cleaning and care if you wish to be able to use leather cock cages, or cock cages with leather on them.
When removing a leather cock ring, you’ll need to follow all of the guidelines which we have mentioned above, as well as the specialty care that comes with cleaning a leather toy. Firstly, you’ll need to get yourself a strong foaming cleaner and a small brush. Even a toothbrush with firm bristles will do well here – and using these you’ll need to wash and scrub the toy. Unlike silicone, metal and plastic cock rings, you should never soak your leather in water when cleaning.
After cleaning, you can wipe down the toy with a 70% isopropyl rubbing alcohol solution or spray with a strong (and body safe) anti-bacterial spray. If you’re using the rubbing alcohol, you’ll need to provide a secondary rinse after it has been cleaned to ensure that there’s none left on the device. Once you have cleaned your device, you will need to make sure that it is completely dry. Putting leather back on whilst it is still damp can cause the material to rot, or even go moldy, and that’s something that no-one wants.
From there, you can use a body safe leather conditioner to ensure that the leather does not deteriorate and this will help keep the leather in as close to its original condition as possible. It’s important to be able to clean leather toys effectively and appropriately so as to prolong the life of your leather cock cage. Failure to look after your leather cock cage, and you’ll find yourself in a world of trouble quite quickly.
We mentioned shaving earlier, but we’d like to point out. You should not be completely hairless if you’re wearing a chastity device. When growing hair, the skin will secrete an oil to help the hair grow, and this bodily oil can cause some irritation and some skin problems. Also, it’s going to be itchy as hell and this is going to put you in a world of discomfort as when you’re wearing the device you’re not going to be able to scratch and you’re inevitably going to end up doing some weird little chicken dance thing in the middle of your work place as you desperately seek solace from the itching. However, it is advised that you keep your hair trimmed short. Long hair and a shift of position could result in hair being caught up in the device and ripped from the roots which can cause immediate, and sharp, pain.
This should go without saying but if you’re not having fun and the trouble of wearing this chastity cage becomes more trouble than it’s actually worth– then you need to take it off. Don’t stuff around, because if you’re not committed to a device like this – then misuses can cause problems for you later down the track. Maybe you decide that it’s not working with your current playmate, or that it’s become a bit mundane. There’s nothing stopping you from taking it off and enjoying some well-earned freedom only to put it back on in a few months. It should be fun – If it’s not, then you need to reconsider.
Not everyone that engages in practicing male chastity is in a relationship. Nor, do they necessarily want to be in a relationship or better yet, they may not even require sexual satisfaction. It’s an interesting phenomenon that sees solo male chastity as either becoming a part of the desexualisation of the male figure, or as an attempt to curb their own sexual habits or even to abate their own sexual interests. Solo male chastity is a very interesting aspect of chastity because the psychology is vastly different than what it is within couple chastity.
In solo chastity, the key holder is essentially yourself, you both deny yourself and release yourself based on you and your needs. Sure, you can ask a friend to mind the key, and there are some friends out there that will not even hesitate to do this. Yet, not everyone has the friend, and the premise of solo chastity relies on your own ability to avoid temptation. There are many reasons why people will engage in solo male chastity. They might feel that they have a sexual compulsion problem which needs to be curbed, they might feel that they need to refocus their sexual energy towards other pursuits and endeavors, they might relish the idea of a personal challenge, they might find the idea of an unknown key holder to be incredibly alluring or they might simply seek to try something new. There are a variety of reasons why someone will engage themselves in solo male chastity.
Fetish Porn is an incredibly large commodity in today’s media driven world with an estimated 71% percent of internet users at some stage accessing or consuming pornography. A study from 2009 suggested that the average single male consumed about 2 hours’ worth of porn per week. That’s on average, so there are a lot of males who consume porn at a much higher rate than that. 20% of males in the United States have admitted to accessing pornography at work. With such worrying statistics is it any wonder that some men seek the need to find help? I’m by no means suggesting that the consumption of pornography is a bad thing and there are plenty of studies that agree with this statement – however, as with most things too much of a certain thing can lead to issues. It can become problematic as the situation might cloud their judgement, or it might become an obstacle in daily life, or work life. We’ve mentioned several time throughout this website, that some people choose chastity in order to refocus their sexual energy onto different tasks, and this ‘addiction’ or consumption of pornography might be standing in the way of a few things. It is no small wonder than that there are men out there who, in order to curb their pornography consumption, have chosen to use a chastity device.
The benefits of using a chastity device are that it can lead to an increase in self-control, will power and determination; qualities which can transcend the realm of chastity devices and affect an individual’s daily life as well. Many men report that they have used a chastity device at work in order to help stave off their erections, arousal levels and become more productive at work. However, it does take a while to achieve that higher productivity as you become used to wearing a cage around your cock with the key safely at home. Thinking of the science of chastity and reading that article will help you in understanding the time lengths it can potentially take to increase productivity amidst the rollercoaster ride of dopamine, prolactin, and oxytocin. These men have also found that their orgasms are much stronger when they do eventually find sexual release simply because they’ve been holding out on themselves.
Asexuality & Low Sex Drives:-
The asexual population, or rather those that aren’t into sex or have exceptionally low sex drives, are also users of the chastity device. I was speaking to a friend recently with whom I asked about his decision to wear a chastity device. He explained it to me as whilst he found no sexual attraction in anyone, nor did he have a particularly high sex drive – he still would randomly get erections as the body tested out the arteries and ensures that everything was still functioning. He wore the chastity cage for two reasons; the first reason being that it prevented him getting erections. He’d read about the uses of chastity cages and discovered that there were some men out there who had managed to learn to control their erections throughout the day.
This appealed to my friend greatly, who often felt rather embarrassed at the thought of having an erection in front of other people. The second reason he offered was that it was a safety net for him. He had a very low sex drive, but that didn’t mean he didn’t want to occasionally have sex or jerk himself off. This secured his cock firmly in a cage, the key safely at home and he didn’t feel the need to indulge himself every now and then. For him it was about the comfort and the satisfaction of knowing that if he was placed in a situation whereby his bodily urges attempted to overtake him, he would still be in control. Think of it like putting your Credit card in a cube of ice, to delay spending money that you do not have.
Further, there are some guys out there who want to practice celibacy, whether that be permanently, for a period of time due to religious or personal beliefs, or even if they simply want to cleanse the body. Cock cages work wonderfully for these types of people who are new to practicing celibacy and need a bit of an extra security blanket to ensure that they don’t stray. These are only a couple of the reasons that single men choose to wear cock cages – but I hope that it provides a little insight into a seemingly mysterious world.
Unknown Key Holders:-
There are actually forums, and dedicated websites to individuals who want to be online key holder for other people. They find the idea of being in control of someone’s sexual urges to be a turn on for themselves, and they are there to help the people who want to engage in chastity, yet aren’t in a relationship, don’t have a friend willing to help and yet still want to be in a chastity relationship. These people might market themselves as chastity trainers, or as Mistresses and Masters who will look after you, and help you achieve the lifestyle of chastity that you want. Chastity slaves are generally held captive by their keyholder either through the physical submission of their key, or will be given a new lock with a code with which the chaste male may request for different reasons. There are a few things which might be different with an online chastity relationship as opposed to physical chastity relationship.
The male seeking chastity may discuss with the key-holder the length of time that the male has to remain in the chastity device. Once the allocated time has passed, the key or code will be given in order to free them. If the chaste male has broken a rule, or a guideline, then an extension of chastity may be given. The time may be days, weeks or even months, or it could be left unneeded with the chaste male having to perform certain tasks in order to complete his sentence.
Communication Is Key. As with all submissive and dominant relationships limits are discussed, put into a document or agreement and signed/agreed to by all parties. It would be wise to ensure that there is an agreement so that there are a sense of guidelines to the relationship.
A Physical Key, or code must be given to a third individual/party or put in safe keeping for emergencies. If something were to happen to the dominant, or key holder and there was an emergency, allowances must be given so that the chaste male can obtain freedom.
Once limits have been set, the chaste male has given over all control. From here the keyholder could get them to perform daily tasks, have fun with them in humiliating and obscene ways, or simply ensure that the chaste male is following all instructions. Failure to do this could result in an extension of the time spent in chastity, or they might be given increasingly humiliating acts as a form of punishment. Though it should be noted that not all chastity relationships contain elements of humiliation and that there are other tasks that can be completed in the absence of humiliation. In virtual key holding situations – the chaste male will need to provide proof that the tasks are being completed and proof could be given in the form of photos, videos, emails, text, or voice. The situations and the tasks are endless. We have provided an example of some humiliating assignments that might be used:
Do not wear underwear and socks
Go to a nude beach
Walk around gym locker room nude
Wear white spandex/lycra while jogging or at gym
Shower only with cold water
Insert 2 golf balls in the ass for 24 hours
Shave all body hair below your neck. Keep shaved during sentence
Wear a leather slave collar in public
Wear a butt plug with a tail on it for an entire day
Grab a black marker and write your penis size on your head in inches/cm and then go shopping.
Go to a gym with showers and take a shower with chastity cage in front of your gym buddies
Take a bunch of photos with you naked and wearing the chastity cage in range of different positions. Send it to the Keyholder
Write a 2000 word essay on the benefits of chastity and send it to the Keyholder
Take a picture kneeling and naked wearing the chastity cage in a changing room at the shopping centre
List 50 reasons why it is a privilege to be allowed to be kept in chastity by the Keyholder (We have acquired this task through a chaste slave and posted it in an article on this website)
What these tasks are designed to do is to incorporate and reinforce the dominant and submissive relationship through the unknown key-holder. Such assignments are not for everyone, and there may be a discussion as to the types of assignments that are doable when setting the guidelines of the relationship – but it is the mission of the dominant to slowly increase your boundaries, though a good dominant will understand those boundaries and push them without breaking them.
The last group of individuals are the ones that simply want to enjoy solo chastity without the influence of others. They could constitute a combination of any of the above mentioned feelings, and they might not have any. They may simply enjoy being caged and the self-control that they are physically putting on themselves. In our next article we will go through some of the safety tips as well as some games that might be played by people in solo chastity.
There are in fact hundreds of thousands of people that prescribe to this and groups like NoFap claim to be a secular porn-recovery community.
You might not have considered it, but have you ever thought about how your sex life affects your mood? On some careful research and thinking about your own behavior, you might come to conclusion and discover a relationship between sex and mood. Indeed, upon some in depth research we have concluded that the relationship between one’s mood, and sexual activity and orgasm are not considered to be the greatest of mysteries. Indeed, there is a well-researched scientific basis on understanding the biochemical mechanisms that occur before, during and after sexual gratification. In this article, we will explore the relationship between the brain, sexual release, and the science behind male chastity. This in turn, may help you answer some of the questions that you might have had which concerned male chastity, or they might lead to a flurry of research whereby you can explore male chastity in new and profound ways. As we have mentioned elsewhere, to reduce male chastity to the denial of orgasms is simplistic and doesn’t accurately reflect male chastity as a whole.
The brain is a complex organ and we understand that it is driven by a number of varying neurotransmitters which we can hold accountable for changing our moods throughout the day, and indeed over the course of our lives. But there are only a couple of these neurotransmitters which are also involved with sexual activity; these three being dopamine, prolactin and oxytocin. Men and women can be said to have distinctly different patterns and responses to these neurotransmitters and the argument behind that is that it centres on our ability, needs and desires to procreate as well as to raise our off-spring so that they too can survive long enough to procreate. Why don’t some people feel this need or urge? Well that relates to the fourth factor which is the concentration of receptors for those neurotransmitters and this in particular relates to how the human body handles dopamine. Let’s break down these three neurotransmitters and how they affect our body, and our responses to sexual activity before we move on to how that relates to male chastity.
What is Dopamine:-
Dopamine is commonly associated with the brains reward and pleasure centers. It can cause feelings of pleasure if we partake in certain activities, such as sexual activity, the consumption of calorie rich foods, the ingestion of drugs, or other behaviors such as shopping and gambling. Dopamine is often referred to as the addictive hormone – people with low dopamine levels have been shown to have higher risks of suffering from addictions. Surprisingly, it is dopamine which is also partially responsible for Parkinson’s disease which sees people with a dopamine deficiency potentially developing the illness. The intense pleasure that we obtain from orgasms is as a result of dopamine flooding our reward centers in our brain during sexual activity.
Normal/Elevated Dopamine Levels: Normal levels of dopamine can result in motivation, contentment, an ability to gather pleasure from finishing tasks, optimism, kindness and good natured feelings towards others and bond with them as well as a healthy libido.
Low Dopamine Levels: Lower levels of dopamine can result in depression and an inability to function within the world due to a lack of ambition and drive, it can also result in an inability to feel certain emotions such as love, and often manifests itself into impaired judgement, lack of remorse and social anxiety. Low dopamine levels also adversely affect the libido.
What Is Prolactin:-
Prolactin is an interesting neurotransmitter and it is named after its ability to affect lactation levels in women. This neurotransmitter has over 300 uses within the body, but it’s effects on the orgasm are well researched in comparison to other uses. An orgasm, through either physical sex or masturbation, will result in a large amount of prolactin being released into the body. It is this chemical which results in a better mood following sexual activity, and can last for over an hour. Prolactin and Dopamine rely on each other for context and control when it comes to sexual activity. Prolactin in men directly affects the refractory period before they can maintain an erection and engage in sexual activities again. The older that you get, the more prolactin is produced in men. Males with a deficiency in prolactin are often able to engage in sexual activity multiple times within a very short amount of time, or they will not lose their erection after climaxing.
Excess levels of prolactin are commonly associated with irritability, decreased testosterone, and a substantial loss of libido.
What Is Oxytocin:-
Often call the love drug – oxytocin is responsible for the feelings of trust, connectedness, closeness and protection. A burst of oxytocin is produced during orgasm and it is often attributed to the afterglow that we feel post sexual activity. Oxytocin is released during all forms of intimate activity, which includes touching, hugging and caressing. After orgasm, in men, the levels of oxytocin quickly plummet until they are below where they were before sexual activity, whereas in women it will lower itself much more slowly, often remaining higher than it was initially. The reasons for this remain largely unclear, though speculation exists that it is linked to ideas of empathy and is a necessary part of bonding, child birth, and child rearing, this also means that post orgasm that women are far more likely to let their guard down and fall in love.
Normal/Elevated levels of Oxytocin:-
This is the love drug after all and as such elevated levels will result in strong and powerful feelings of emotion, a sense of devotion and closeness, an increased sense of positivist, and feelings or protection and responsibility.
Low Oxytocin Levels:-
Sees a reduction of feelings of attachment and connection, it is also responsible for low libido and depression, as well as a reduction of empathy towards others.
How Does This Affect A Man In Chastity?
We just spoke about how an orgasm results in a substantial drop after an orgasm in a male, with the females drop occurring more slowly in the sense of a plateauing effect. What if we were to avoid this sudden drop by removing it all together? In detailed blogposts by Sarah Jameson on her website male chastity blog, she details how after each orgasm there would be a period of time where her partner, John, would not be as engaging in the sense of serving and helping, as he was before his orgasm. She timed this sensation to last for a period of between 7-10 days and she has used this tracking to expand the periods as to which he remains caged. If we switch John to engaging in sexual activity once or twice per week, which could be considered to be normal, then the levels of the neurotransmitters which we have just discussed would never really stabilize and as such it would be a continual roller coaster ride of emotions.
The most important thing to consider here would be the constant fluctuation of oxytocin levels which are responsible for John’s moods, and his ability to engage in intimate activities with his wife through touching, caressing and other variations of this. For an individual who engages in chastity, or in the case of John has multiple orgasms on a honeymoon like weekend every few months, then he will still experience the immediate downward spiral as a result of the neurotransmitters and his mood will still change as a result of having low dopamine levels and higher prolactin levels.
Unlike his peers though, who will continually have orgasms within the dopamine recovery period, John does not and therefore will not suffer from the fluctuation of the neurotransmitters in the same way as his peers. Indeed, within the fortnight his dopamine levels will have returned to a state of relative normalcy and will continually increase over time through frequent sexual play and through intimacy with his partner whereby he does not get sexual release. One could even argue that a male in a chastity device will have increased levels of dopamine in his system, due to the presence of the chastity cage which he finds arousing.
There are a few theories which suggest that this fluctuation in males is as a result of the need to procreate; that being to get his sexual partner pregnant and then disengage from sexual activity leaving her in a flat lined state of emotions that specialize in empathy and caring and ‘motherly’ natures, that she can use to then deal with pregnancy, child birth, and ultimately child-rearing. This mechanism is cyclic in the sense for a male and probably can be related to gene survival; it would be beneficial for a male to engage in a quantity and variety of sex to ensure it is his genes which are being reproduced across the spectrum and combining them with different women to ensure a mix of children within a short period of time.
Modern medicine has grown our life expectancy to around 80 years, vastly different in comparison to the early 19th century where the average life expectancy was considered to be around 30 years. Indeed, studies suggest that since 1900, the average life expectancy has doubled. Could we then attribute that to the suggestion humans may or may not be geared for monogamous lives as our life expectancy has almost tripled in such a short space of time? We could probably make that argument, especially considering reports that couples in relationships of chastity experience substantially lower rates of divorce and separation than their non-chastity counterparts. Certainly, an interesting thing to consider.