6 Red Flags to Watch out For in Your BDSM Relationship

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Trust is crucial in any relationship. This goes double for BDSM arrangements due to their specific nature. Just because BDSM relationships are about exploration and sexual expression doesn’t mean there aren’t limitations. Instead, the BDSM community has its own set of rules. If you’re interested in entering the submissive dating world, you need to know the red flags when looking for a dominant. By understanding them, you’ll be able to avoid dominants who aren’t in the BDSM world for the right reasons.

They don’t believe in a safe word

If you talk to a dom who doesn’t believe in using a safeword or ignores your safeword, run. This is someone who doesn’t respect the basics of BDSM and can cause severe damage to you. If your dom continues after you’ve said your safeword, you need to find another dominant. Of course, you should talk about it after the session, and try to figure out what happened first. However, a safeword is designed to protect the sub from acts that go beyond their personal boundaries. If your dom isn’t respecting your wishes, then they’re breaking your trust in them.

They think you need to be broken

This is one of the most common and well known red flags. Some doms have the idea that their subs need to be broken; similar to how you’d tame a wild animal. They believe in order for the sub to properly obey them, they need to break and remold their submissive entirely. This can be a huge red flag.

If your dom wants to “break you down,” and if you consent to this, they need to have a plan of how they’re going to build you back up again. The plan needs to be concrete and focus on building confidence in you. If a dom has never done this before or refuses to talk about their previous subs, then that’s a sign their experiences with breaking people down didn’t work too well.

They exclude you from the BDSM community

There’s a huge difference between being controlling and being jealous. We can all be a little jealous; however, being controlling is an entirely different thing. If your dom is trying to control you by preventing you from speaking to other people in the BDSM community, they aren’t a real dom. The BDSM community exists for like-minded people to connect and create relationships. If your dom isn’t allowing you to do that, then you need a new dom.

Prevent you from using social media

“Social Media Blocking” is a relatively new red flag, but is equally dangerous as the rest on our list. Social media blocking is when all communications (texts, Whatsapp, emails, Facebook, etc.) go through your dom. As a sub, they don’t allow you any private communication; everything needs to go through them first. This behavior is extremely controlling as they don’t want you to meet anyone else. If they’re controlling how you communicate, they’re also deciding who you communicate with. In other words, they slowly remove people from your life.

They don’t see you as a person

Regardless if you’re a dom or sub, you’re a person. It doesn’t matter if you’re roleplaying or being whipped, you’re still a human being with rights. If a dom tries to take your basic rights away from you; preventing you from speaking your opinion, then this is something you need to look into. Just because you enjoy being submissive, doesn’t mean you’re less of a person.

They don’t follow the agreed rules

Like we said before, BDSM isn’t a free-for-all; instead, it has specific rules for both subs and doms to follow. Of course, each relationship has its agreed rules as well. These rules ensure both you and your dom are on the same page. However, if your dom isn’t following the rules, then this is a red flag. The rules symbolize respect for the relationship and safety. If a dom is deciding to change the rules without your knowledge, that’s a problem. By breaking the rules, it’s clear they don’t respect you as a sub.

If you notice one of these red flags in your BDSM relationship, it doesn’t mean you need to break up right away. But it does mean you need to communicate with your partner and pay more attention to the relationship. If the red flags continue or become worse, you’ll need to decide whether or not the relationship is worth it. When looking at the red flags, listen to your gut. What is it telling you? If you have a feeling that something isn’t right, that’s because it isn’t.

Can Cuckold Dating Actually Help Your Marriage?

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Being married to someone for many years can make your sex life a little bit boring and uninspiring. People who have been together for more than 20 years usually don’t feel the same level of sexual attraction they felt at the beginning of their relationship. That’s why some of them are trying to reignite the flame in their bedroom by using various sex toys and trying different fetishes, cuckold fantasy included. In case you don’t know, a cuckold is a husband of an adulterous wife. However, in a modern cuckold fantasy, a cuckold is a man who enjoys watching his wife having sex with another man. A lot of married couples have managed to revive their sex life by trying this fetish which might encourage you to do the same thing if you have problems in the bedroom. However, before you start seeking cuckold partners, we should first answer a very important question – can cuckold dating actually help your marriage?

Seeing Your Woman With Another Man Will Arouse You

It’s safe to say that rekindling the passion and rediscovering the feelings of arousal is not an easy and simple thing to do when you’ve been with someone for more than 20 years. You know your wife’s body and moves so well, which means nothing she does can surprise you. Naturally, this is not a good thing in the bedroom and you can fix it by watching your wife have sex with another man. This may seem like a drastic measure, but why not give it a shotif nothing else works for you? Seeing your woman from this new perspective will show you how beautiful and sensual she really is.

Watching Her Have Sex With Someone Else Can Be Very Educational

If we’re being completely honest and real, a lot of men think that they know all there is to know about sex. They consider themselves to be great lovers, but in reality, most of them don’t know how to please a woman. So, if you’re not too proud, you should try being a cuckold because this unique sexual experience will provide you with a chance to see what your wife likes and dislikes in bed. This type of education can be quite useful and help you enjoy more satisfying sex with your significant other.

This Can Boost the Woman’s Confidence and Inspire Her to Be Better in Bed

The cuckold fetish is usually all about the man and his attempt to rediscover his passion and feelings of arousal. However, it can be very good for the woman as well. This type of sex can boost the woman’s confidence and motivate her to be better in the bedroom. The fact that some other man wants her badly will make her feel more confident and self-assured during sex. Also, she will want to put on a show for you and that’s why she’ll have to acquire some new skills.

Cuckold Fetish Will Help You to Be More Honest with Each Other

Once you set aside your pride and jealousy, you will see that this type of arrangement is something that could really benefit your communication in the relationship. Most couples stop sharing their intimate sexual desires with their partners after being married for a long time. However, after trying the cuckold fetish, you won’t be shy anymore and you will be able to be more honest with each other when it comes to sex and other erotic pleasures. You will be more relaxed and straightforward not just in the bedroom, but also in other important aspects of your life. If anything, this experience will make you more courageous.

It Will Make You Less Judgmental When It Comes to Fetishes and Kinky Sex

Most people consider fetishes and kinky sex as something that shouldn’t be enjoyed in marriage. However, this type of narrow-minded attitude is usually the main reason why married people have boring and uninspiring sex lives. So, if you don’t want to have this problem in your marriage, you have to be less judgmental. A good cuckold experience is something that can help you with that. Watching your wife have sex with another man or being watched by your husband will help you see that you can enjoy many other kinky things that you used to consider forbidden and shameful. This new positive attitude will certainly make your sex life much better and save your marriage. All in all, if you’re not satisfied with the sex you’re having with your spouse, you should probably try cuckolding.

Interview With The Chaste Cyclist!

Recently we came across a great interview with a family man.  Happily married with children but totally into the Chaste Lifestyle.  He really enjoys being a male in chastity and one of his other loves is cycling.  He decided to start a blog that would be part of his ‘lifestyle diary’ even putting a calendar on the days his keyholder would release him.

The blog developed a bit of a cult following and here you can read what he has to say about male chastity and his sexual lifestyle….

Emmett Got Locked Up In Silverado!

Over time, man has had the urge to explore his sexual potential and determine how far he can actually go to really satisfy this itch. The undeniable fact is that there is possibly no limit to fully fulfilling these urges. Different people have different sexual extremes to which they would be willing to go to satisfy themselves  and for me it was found when I discovered the Silverado Cock Cage. . Though many people may consider this as a strange act, I like to view it as a sexy method that undoubtedly turns on most women, especially mine.

What is a cock cage?

I am sure most of you might be wondering what the hell I am talking about. Now, a cock cage is simply a device that encloses either the penis or both the penis and the testicles. It usually attaches at the base of the balls and is normally made of stainless steel. Often, they possess a hasp like section allowing them to be lockable so that they can only be removed by the key bearer.

There is quite a bit of history relating to chastity devices as many years ago it is believed that fathers used to make their daughters wear chastity belts or husbands their wives when the were away for extended periods. They believed that by doing this, they would help them preserve their virginity until marriage or from cheating on them. The real threat in this was when the fathers died or husbands killed the poor girls had to live with these burdens for the rest of their lives unless they found a good locksmith. Recently however, women have found the drive to want to feel more in control of their men. The use of a cock cages does just the trick for them as they will be empowered with owning the key and choosing when and where they man can be released. It allows sexual stimulation while at the same time forbidding sexual intercourse of any kind by tightly enclosing the male member. Sexual stimulation of the penis is possible by use of the tongue or fingertips but this often is not possible as when the male member becomes aroused in a chastity device will often cause discomfort and/or pain.

 

In medieval ages, these chastity devices were made using poor or even toxic materials which could cause serious side effects on the wearer. However, with modern cock cage such as the Silverado cock cage, the user is guaranteed of an increased sexual experience in a safe and secure device.  So What is It About the Silverado Cock Cage that sets it apart from the others.  Well that is easy to answer the Silverado cock cage consists of a ring strategically seated around the base of the penis behind the scrotum and a penis cage which is basically a tube that serves to hold the penis with the two parts joined together with a hinge.  The cage is so designed that the penis inside cannot be directly stimulated with the hands and if you are get aroused that it would become uncomfortable and even painful thereby allowing for greater male sexual control. However, the tip is perforated so as to allow urine to pass through easily.

Another unique special feature of the Silverado cock cage is its incorporation of side vents which effectively facilitate regular cleaning and maintenance plus air circulation. Like other cock cages, the Silverado cock cage also contains a ring and cage lock system.

My Pros of the Silverado cock cage based on my experience with these chastity devices, I would highly recommend any user to go for the Silverado cock cage as it offers the safest enhancements to the skill of  male chastity especially between couples.  The rings are made and properly positioned to limit the circulation of blood in the penis for consequential greater satisfaction. The Silverado cock cage is conveniently available and price friendly to suit the budgets of every user. With modern technology, one need not stress themselves with transport charges. One can easily order the life changing Silverado cock cage online at the best adult shops.  Silverado cock cage is highly Eco-friendly made with the most recent technology to ensure that it is both user and environmental friendly utilizing the simplest and yet effective materials to manufacture.The Silverado cock cage comes with a 100% guarantee of safety. Its rings are made of surgical steel to ensure the user’s satisfaction, contentment and additional comfort.

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This amazing product is tested and licensed hence its quality has already been proven to be of the right standards.  It also comes in varying sizes, shapes and colors to suit the user’s preference. Finally, the Silverado cock cage is a miracle worker when it comes to controlling your orgasm and masturbation addiction. Actually, this is the main reason why I find this product amazing. With this capability, your esteem as a man is boosted to unimaginable levels. Every man wants to not only feel satisfied with sex but also make their partners get the most out of it. I personally believe that with this product already in the market, one has no legitimate explanation to low libido or any sexual disorientation.. Don’t hesitate; simply get into the store and grab the Silverado cock cage and discover new ways to make your sexual performance electrifying. Improve your sexual activity, gratification and mood. You deserve to bring out the real sexy you so don’t wait!

Adultsmart Interview With Sir James – Cuckolding!

This morning I read an interesting article from one of my favorite adult blogs Adultsmart.  In it a BDSM Master, Sir James, delves into the intricacies of couples cuckolding and as we all know a bit of cuckolding  play is always better when incorporating a bit of chastity games.  It is informative and delves into what it is like being a master at the Fetish House and a broader understanding of the whole set up.  If you are like me and enjoy expanding your knowledge in your Fetlife have a read of the Sir James interview….