Solo Chastity Safety Tips:-
Safety within chastity is pretty much the same as with standard chastity play. However, the most difficult thing will be the absence of a key holder. If you choose not to engage with a key holder, (or even if you do) then it's a good idea to have some backups to avoid temptation. The Key is the most important part of male chastity. It is what will secure your release, and it is what denies you pleasure and freedom. When you're in a physical relationship with a key-holder, the denial of the key is pretty simple. Your key holder partner will hold the key, hide the key, and use the key as they deem fit. Regardless of your circumstances we still recommend reading this page so that you can find uses and places for the emergency key though! When you're not in a relationship or you're not using a key holder, holding the key becomes a little more tricky. It needs to be something that is unusual, or difficult to get to so that you do not succumb to temptation by using your key. To do that you'll need to make your key as inaccessible as possible. Here are a few ways and ideas that you could use, or that your partner might use.
- Hiding The Key
in a public place. Ideally, you don't want to be hiding it in a place that is open 24 hours a day and seven days a week as you'll be easily able to get your key. Places to consider might be, under the carpet in a library or in a seldom used section, somewhere in a shopping mall, or maybe in your gym locker where there's not 24 hours access. See, the more restrictive that the hiding places opening hours are, the more difficult it going to make it when you go and try and retrieve it. If you're using an option like this - you might want to get a back-up key in case your first key is accidentally found.
- Bury The Key
You might want to bury the key at a bus stop near your home, you might want to bury it near a landmark, or you might enjoy bushwalking and you might find a secluded spot in which you can bury it. Alternatively you could bury it near a farm, tree or fence post or pretty much wherever you like. So long as that it takes some distance to travel to. Putting it somewhere in the country can make it difficult especially if your area is prone to bad weather.
- A Glass Bottle
can serve as a key container. Simply plug up the neck with some stuff that can't be removed, or alternatively melt the neck together after the key has been inserted. You're basically looking at the idea that the bottle has to be broken in order to get the key out of the bottle. Secondly, the bottle will make for an awesome container if the key needs to be buried somewhere as the glass will not be breaking down anytime soon. (Please don't put it in a cardboard box)
- Hide The Key At Work
You work there, you know all the little hidey holes where you can keep stuff, and where people aren't going to look. If you're putting it in a secure/awkward situation at work not only are you unlikely to take the chastity device off until you get home. Also, unless your workplace is open 24 hours, or you have keys, you're not going to be able to have access to it all day.
- Bury It In A Friend’s Garden
without their knowledge. Or alternatively, hide it in their house or garage. Not only will you have to endure the torment of going to visit them when you're caged, but you won't be in a position to visit and leave straight away, meaning that there's either going to be some awkward explaining or some enduring that you'll have to go through.
- Give Your Friends
a spare set of keys with the key on it. This works well if you're looking at chastity as something long term, as there's only so many times that you can use the excuse of that you've forgotten your keys.
In all of these situations it is best that you keep a secondary back up key just in case. For example, if your friend goes away on holidays without telling you, then you're certainly going to be in a pickle if you've left the key inside their house. Always ensure back up plans, and then make sure that you have back up plans for the back up plans. It might seem like a pain and a hassle but you're not going to regret it.
Chastity can be difficult when you don't have a partner to engage with - however just because you don't have anyone else doesn't mean that you can't enjoy yourself in chastity. What you'll find below is a list of games that you can play by yourself in order to secure your own release and satisfaction at times. Basically, it's a reward based system that you would normally get with a key holder, just in this case you're rewarding yourself. The thing is, you can still enjoy chastity play even before you get someone else involved, and this might be a precursor to seeing if you actually enjoy chastity play without the embarrassment of having to ask someone else. In solo chastity play - you have to be honest with yourself and you have to be your own key holder, it's not going to work if you're not being committed to the type of play. Before you engage in extended periods of being caged, you need to ensure that your brand new chastity cage works, and fits well.
Start off by wearing it for short periods of time, and while carrying the key. If at any stage you feel discomfort, pain or anything like that, immediately remove the device and work out what was causing the discomfort. If it was simply in the wrong position, then reposition and put back on. But if the problem is serious, like the ring is too small, or the device is too big, then you're going to have to discontinue use, and get a new device or parts for the device. You'll also need to start practicing by sleeping with it to ensure that it's also a good fit for when you're asleep. This process might take a few days, or even weeks, until you’re completely comfortable and satisfied with the device and you're comfortable with leaving the key at home.
Start off with small trips, like a shopping trip, friend for lunch etc. and leaving the key at home. You'll still have access to it, but just not immediately. In this fashion you can build yourself up to wearing the chastity device full time. Depending on your level of commitment you could start off by mirroring a standard key holder relationship by drawing up a contact, which will establish the length of time that you will remain chaste, establishing a list of punishments and so on and so forth. If you're only going to do it for a few days, you could consider the idea of mailing the key to yourself, either from a neighboring town or similar. This will let you have a taste of chastity and whether you like it or not.
By constructing a list of punishments you could be holding yourself accountable to the contract as well - when playing solo its really up to you as to how far you want to take it. We have compiled a short list of punishments that you could use - penciling in the appropriate extensions depending on the time that you're being locked up. If it's only a couple of days you could extend the punishment by hours or days, it’s not really feasible to extend it by weeks or months. Conversely, if you're locking yourself up for weeks or months, the punishments shouldn't be hours or days.
- Suggested Male Chastity Penalties
- Not wearing your cage at all times:
- Touching yourself whilst being caged:
- Attempted masturbation/Masturbation
- Orgasm during the period of being locked:
- Not pleasing someone else to the best of your ability whilst locked:
- Failure to complete chores as per the contract:
Once you have sorted out all of the above, including what to do with back up keys you can start your chastity fantasy by engaging in some games! A good way to create a secure and emergency back up key, is to drop the key into a plastic bottle of water and freeze it. You'll be limited in your access to your key and the ways in which you can quickly access it. It'll still be there in an emergency, but it won't be immediate.
Going to the gym can be hard. Why not motivate yourself by using chastity as a personal trainer? You could ask a friend to put the key in a locker, and they can give you the combination after you've worked out, or simply get them to hold onto a bunch of keys (with the chastity on it) for a short period of time. If you successfully work out, you can have access to the key again. If not. . . you'll remain locked up.
There are a few websites online which will do something like a chastity spin. You 'spin' the wheel and it will give you a task or activity to do. It might add to your time as being chaste, or it might be kind and give you an early freedom. Be careful what you wish for, because this isnt usually a wheel of kindness.
The Key Bowl:
For this one you'll need a bunch of keys, you'll be better if they are similar keys, you might even find it easier and more convenient to go to the locksmith and buy a bunch of key blanks, or ask them to just do a bunch of random style keys for you. Say it's a date night and you're looking for a fun game. You might need to give them a couple of days in order to do this, or buy a bunch of random keys online from ebay. Once you have your keys, put them and the key for the lock in the jar. From here, the choice is yours. You may simply take one key out per day, or for each task/goal that you've given yourself you might be rewarded with a key. If you're really wanting to make this game last as long as possible, return the keys to the bowl at the end of each day/week, or immediately after you discover that it’s the wrong key.
For this you can use as little, or as many dice as you want. Starting off from the lowest number possible on the dice make a list of rewards and punishments that you're going to give yourself. Keep in mind, that the more dice you use the more difficult it's going to be and the more punishments and rewards that you’re going to have to right (unless you're going to do ranges)
People on the internet are very kind and sweet. If you decide to join a chastity forum, you might decide to announce that for every comment that you get on your post, that you're going to add X amount to your punishment. Or ask for them to make a suggestion of some kind. Prior to the post, pick a number - you have to follow that number posts instructions. Aren't random people nice?
Make it hard:
Option 1. I'm sure that you have a bunch on anal insertables somewhere in the house (if you don't go get some - or see option 2). Engage in some delightful anal play for a period of 25 minutes. At the end of this time - simply walk away.
Option 2. Watch your favorite porn for a period of 25 minutes. At the end of the time, walk away.
This one helps if you also do not have access to your back up key for an hour or so. The tease will simply blow your mind.
This one is certainly not for everyone. Make sure that your key is small enough to swallow without causing any damage. You'll generally have your key back in 3-5 days. Just in case - make sure you have a backup.
The Kitchen Safe:
This one is not as extreme as swallowing your key. For this one you'll need to look online. There's a bunch of lockable cookie jars online, some of them will not even have an override so if its control that you're after then this is going to be for you. It will force discipline, and you're going to be in a position that forces you to take the commands of a lifeless being. But hey, that's chastity! Give someone a spare key, or have a backup just in case.